With mother\'s heart and in the workplace

Arguably, mother shiyue pregnant, which don\'t love their baby? But in real life, because of the mother (especially career women) of mind is extremely delicate and complex, also in the process of exchanges between the mother and baby in an extremely delicate and complex psychology and behavior, some good, some is benign.

\"Absent-minded\" mother

Ms Wong said, did a mother does have a sense of happiness in the future, but she is not happy, even very reluctant. WONG has served in a company Office, job performance excellent, quite appreciated by the boss, but after gave birth to a child, she had many of the others bear the business, which makes her pride was affected, and Madam WONG handed in resignation, starting at home full-time mother, also requested a xiaobaomu and a helper.

Although economic plenty at home, the husband is also a reasonable, Madam WONG often feel nervous and panic and anxiety, this affects the behavior when she is breastfeeding and parenting status. When the son of awake time she sometimes communicate with his kindly eyes, embracing touch, sweet murmuring softly. But there are a lot of times, is distracted when she is taking care of her son\'s life, she felt that he should have a new goal and start to prepare; when there is more, in order not to disturb their sleep, eating and leisure habits, she gave her son to a nanny. Every time Madam WONG from the balcony to see a mother loosely pushed the children when the car out for a walk, a feeling of guilt would have skirted the heart: mothers are happy life of a big deal, but why I often don\'t be happy?

Son would love more than two years old when one day, Madam WONG\'s sister with her son to visit, a year old little nephew playing in the new environment exciting touch to this and that, while Tintin hid in the corner kept on sobbing, sound not, retreat. Madam WONG\'s first reason, but Tintin is shrinking there crying, Ms WONG could not help but scold up loudly, as a result, Tintin is worse. See outsiders so worthless son, Madam WONG was look bad as well as on the ability to do their own mother suspected, she was more worried about this, son of will there be obstacles to development.

\"Psychological diagnosis\"

Madam WONG in the process of raising children, to a \"non-authenticity of mother\'s presence\" status, its result is the son of adverse effects to a \"social withdrawal\" behavior.

\"The presence of non-authenticity of mother\" refers to the mother for breast-feeding the baby unconscious and absent-minded attitude, manifested as a vaguely, elusive irritation. Such an attitude in lactating mothers who are not uncommon, especially in business and family cointermeasures more common in women.

\"The presence of non-authenticity of mother\" is formed of various psychological and behavioral problems in children of the main \"pathogens\".

Don\'t want to do \"spiritual orphans\" baby

\"The presence of non-authenticity of mother\" is breastfeeding the baby faces the most serious trouble, it makes the baby is in a State of tense struggle every day, and must pay the price for their every victory.

When you mother often care free, baby must constantly improve their \"observe the colour\" capability to detect mother\'s indifference, while no stone unturned, to call back his mother\'s attention and care. So, some babies sleep well, always wake up at night and even noisy; some cannot be left alone, always adhesive adult link; some aggressive behavior occurs, and some behavior degenerate timid sth Parents will be considered to be naughty children in General, these conditions or willful if reflected to traditional Chinese medicine, he might say nobody inspected, deficiency in factors such as lead, then grasp of traditional Chinese medicine; however in the psychologist\'s opinion, these are baby tension, results in a State of alert for a long time without medication, as long as the parents, especially mothers change rearing attitudes and rearing.

Mend is not too late

Raising of the first three years of life are important and may even affect a child\'s life, which is recognized by more and more parents. But if you say \"three years of determining one\'s life\" is overdone, plasticity of person is very strong, stronger the smaller children plasticity, parents aware of their own problems, and after the correction in a timely manner, children are soon \"Storm\".

After the birth to a child, Madam WONG is a psychological \"splint\": the contradiction between career and family to let her hesitation or indecision, downright cursedness of results is often her \"at home, outside the heart is at home\", resulting in \"mother\'s non-presence of authenticity\". In the view of Madam WONG, son of poor communication, hang back, is illogical behavior problems, but in the psychological world of Tintin, this is the logical result of a good, select the \"social withdrawal\" can attract the mother\'s concern, this is the result of their lengthy trial and error, put the soul of suffering to achieve victory. Infants are small, but also has \"integrity\", he would rather himself aggrieved, adult misconceptions is not willing to become an orphan of the soul!

After talking with Madam WONG repeatedly, she could read myself could read children, started a \"mend not later\" rescue work.

Madam WONG reclusive thou changed the usual lifestyle initiative to deal with other young mothers in the community, small partners mopagunda and his son the same age. The weekend or holiday, she invited friends and family to House, care home mess worse, and the son \"crazy\" enough. Previous festivals, Madam WONG does not love visiting friends and relatives, she changed her son now in order to, with his former club West tour. After a period of emergency relief, Tintin was not afraid of dealing with people, be a cheerful and lively child.

See Madam WONG later, she has been a company paid Office. She was feeling he had crossed a \"crucial\", when she forget the concern put after raising children, found that children progress, mature step forward myself, felt that he had skill, courage than before.

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Although the story of the first year of life is very short, but vigorous calligraphy. Early life experience is for children to have a healthy development of a better life, and therefore United States White Professor at Harvard University said: \"nothing more important than tending the first three years of the baby. ”