The current, single parent families children\'s education has become a prominent social problem. Single parent parents due to various reasons the child to Grandpa and Grandma or Grandpa, Grandma, care, to educate their children. Due to their special life experience and lower literacy, make their children\'s education problems arise in the process, kids deviated from the normal track. This article from the face of this phenomenon are analyzed, pointed out that its harm.
Divorce in today\'s society is not a new idea. Social development, improving the comprehensive quality of the people, no one sees it as a scandal. It is the subject of both sides to break the feudal secular bias statements out of the multitude of cold sarcasm, different opinions, the half of the wedding, many divorced from this release. Easy and comfortable after divorce, no fear, no beam, liberated the original family marriage brings suffering and misfortune.
However, each a rupture and disintegration of the family, is to love and marriage--children, brought great misfortune caused great wound on the soul, any subsequent education was unable to erase and remedy.
After divorce, both parents separate ways, busy with his career, most attend to children. Some also believe children are a burden, is a white elephant. Some simply referred the child to Grandpa and Grandma or Grandpa and Grandma managed education. According to research group survey, we found some 70% about single parents of children not from its parent education and management of direct. In this way, to a certain extent resulted in neglect of child education and vulnerability management. Appear briefly or indirectly blank in education.
Single parent children by the education and management of Grandpa and Grandma or Grandpa and Grandma, forming a generational education, this education there are a lot of problems. Found in the investigation and discussion, mainly in the following areas:
(A) the feelings of isolation and disconnection
Single parents of children and their father or mother is a direct blood relationship, love is a natural pure love of parents giving, every child needs this sincere emotion, the parent (mother) for children\'s educational objective is natural, without any affectation, which is a child can feel. From the development of rule of life, education of every child from its parents is the most appropriate, even if it is not in place, no scientific education, there are always better than to indirect education.
Experts have pointed out, children need parents \' love of pure natural, from any other aspect of love is irreparable.
The father or the mother because of various reasons, send their children to their grandparents or grandparent education and management, originally on the mental, emotional is greatly injured, the father or the mother to do so would make the children feel the emotional crisis. They are the envy of other children follow parents, naive, romantic, lively and I was like a lonely left behind big wild goose pagoda, caused feelings of isolation and disconnection again. Special desire of the children and their parents to eat, live, with life, communicating with parents in good faith. However, single-parent children are themselves not as with the other children, enjoy the happiness and joy in the world. They resigned, at the mercy of God and mercy, accept emotions from generational.
(Ii) old and departure from education contents
Single parent child term and lived with Grandpa and Grandma or others, which some people naturally become the child\'s tutor, they shoulder the responsibility of educating children, fulfilling obligations to children. Their subjective wishes is good, but also very responsible. However, because of the different age of these people live and the younger, their education and modern people have a lot of difference. Ideological concepts are relatively rigid, as knowledge of the old, thus can only own limited knowledge and information to pass on to children.
General land of the town was developed, people\'s ideological concepts more advanced open education barely keep up. Due to their relatively backward economy in rural areas, traffic is extremely occlusion, information is not smart, child education is problematic.
Educators to implement intergenerational education due to age and the age of reason, there is generally a low level of knowledge, not up on their children\'s education, grandparents in rural areas is even more out of the question. According to the survey, rural 75% of the grandparents were illiterate or semiliterate. This part of the town among the illiterate or semiliterate also accounted for about 45%. Their cultural quality low, shallow knowledge but to folklore songs, light verse, proverbs, and ghost stories, some vulgar things as educational content, which teaches children.
In addition, the content of education not only of the old, sometimes incompatible with the times, disassociate. Some things with feudal fans, some of the things taught to the children of the code of the brotherhood, injury to the them.
The rapid development in today\'s society, under the intergenerational education, knowledge of today\'s advanced science and technology, science and technology information, theory and technology of modern education, means of modern education thoughts, ideas, and these single parent students up. In their peers, they are unfortunately, he does not train with the times, seems to be a group of left behind \"children\", only according to the folklore of Earth, heal their ignorance. Even if know one or two, only very limited, and single channel sources. This situation is entirely the result of the low quality of special education. In their education, and single parent students not only missed the Moon, but also miss the stars, who become the tragedy of the times.
(C) education the principal contradiction and conflict
Single parent children with other children, desire high, strong plasticity, limelight, like exploring new things. Their only information comes from TV, access to education is the school of education, such education with modern significance and breath. However compared to single-parent children are often the family education and school education, where always had a feeling that there are many inconsistencies do not coordinate, so they do not know how to be good at. Inside there is a lot of puzzled, psychological imbalance, resulting in
Inner contradictions and suffering.Single parent children if the inner conflicts and suffering do not have access to free help, vent and, over time, long-term accumulation in psychology, would pose a threat to them, so they are not looking for a chance to vent, is to seek the opportunity to revenge, to psychological balance. Fighting, swearing, no time to go home, night without end, and even steal Rob extortion, is this psychological response.
In these circumstances, if significantly more than the family education of school education, mental would be much less chance of this, otherwise, the consequences would be disastrous.
(D) education result of regret and disappointment
For single parent child education and management is a long-term and complex work, not overnight can be Minato-effect. A large number of facts have proved that, single parent child education is much more difficult than that of general education of children, intergenerational education of child development is even more difficult, the effect of often counterproductive. Under the intergenerational education, single parent children cannot be normal and healthy growth. Because of the stale of the education, educational methods are not scientific, education is not in place in time, often cause many problems in children. Depression and loneliness, anxiety and fear, jealousy and resentment and other undesirable psychological; lie and what, curse fights, smoking and drinking, stealing robbery and other serious bad habits of continuous formation and development, of serious crime will embark on the road. Single parent children became victims of generational education, said serious points, grandparents, who became the chief culprit. And when all day single parent children of busy parents when found it was too late.
Japan National Institute of education had 84 truancy, violence and other bad behavior conducted a survey of students found 82 students about bad behavior and family education. Russia according to a survey, two-thirds defects of juvenile offenders was born in the family.
In our country, due to rising divorce rates, single parent child team of ballooning, single parent children\'s education became a prominent social problem. According to the relevant departments of statistics, in Shanghai, only 5% of the various families of single parent families, their minor children crimes 30% of the total number of all juvenile delinquency. According to the survey data show that in 1997 a city destroyed an average of 15 persons aged 14-16 years theft gangs, 12 of them come from single parent families.
Education and management of single-parent children must not be taken lightly, as the father or the mother should be regarded as a social responsibility to look at. Education and management should personally. Otherwise, you will be sorry.
Single parent children are the most special groups in contemporary society, is a most unfortunate group. Children appear serious psychological problems, bad habits, and induced by the crime, its responsibility should be fully borne by their parents. Children are innocent, they live in such families is unfortunate, although there is a fault on their subjective, but they do not want to talk to other parents of children can be taught and grow it? Just because they live in a family atmosphere so negative. Growth characteristics and environment of single-parent children decided they inevitably are infected, or another problem occurred. Therefore, parents have to shoulder this responsibility, conscientiously take effective measures to remedy the position. So that they no longer appear in the future growth of similar problems, promote their full and healthy development.
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