Due to hygiene, manners and differences in labour areas such as concept, generational family education raised new problems
Today, the generational characteristics of education is becoming a family education in Guangzhou, according to the survey, Guangzhou 60% families from grandparent, grandparents to participate fully or in part to take care of life to future generations, even in the study and education.
However due to differences in concept and the living environment of two generations, young parents care for the elderly \' traditional way of educating children wonder, modern family family conflicts surrounding the germinal intergenerational education more frequent.
Mother experiences were daughter-in-law questioned
The national day, a minus broke out in Guangzhou, haizhu district, Korea alternative \"family war\". Korean old Hunan changde people, had lived in rural areas, while reaching the scarab, hands and feet but is quite smart and very capable. She had a nanny, with seven or eight children. Four months ago, Han request second son, daughter-in-law, the old come to Guangzhou, taking care of only a half year old grandson, can enjoy family relationships with sons live in large cities, but also to personally take care of grandchildren\'s lives, Han old too not to mention how happy.
At first, enjoyable family life, the old man\'s arrival for the two busy young people address the worries of the workplace. However, there is one thing which let Korean old slightly unpleasant, over time, she found her daughter-in-law Xiao Wang likes to find fault, such as baby bottles is not used, washed with hot water scalded when children clothing isn\'t germicidal SOAP and so on. Xiao Wang to her mother-in-law when asking these questions, usually friendly, Korea old daughter-in-law has no experience with children is considered, the spirit was too nervous, so stick to their practices.
National day to has, small King finally has idle time and mother-in-law together care children, she found in health concept aspects and mother-in-law of differences is obvious: Han old too to children modulation good milk or rice noodles Hou, still habitual to with mouth suck pacifier try temperature (she repeatedly told mother-in-law can will milk drops in hand Shang try temperature); children eating Shi with of one-time masks, elderly does not willing immediately lost, total to continuous with Shang two or three times only abandoned; elderly also often will baby of clothing and adult clothing placed in washing machine together cleaning, or forget with specifically of baby disinfectant, and SOAP liquid, to sterilization.
Xiao Wang to her mother referred to these issues at a time, Han old always that their child is very experienced, conditions are not allowed in the past, life is not careful, kids can also grow up healthily, no need to be too picky health details.
In the area of nutrition concept of raising children and daughter-in-law are also differences: Xiao Wang over to South Korea at a time the old 10 days ration of rice noodles, 44 days in the elderly but they can always use, but also confidently said \"less each meal, live to be 99\", Xiao Wang believes that her mother-in-law traditional conservation concepts should not be used in children, after all, children are at the stage of long body.
The King broke the small bottom line of tolerance, she found herself reminder term did not play any role. Xiao Wang \"dismiss\" the mother-in-law, never let her take care of his son\'s life.
Old han said daughter-in-law Xiao Wang and good governance amiable, honor their elders, and between them there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the traditional sense, but she just doesn\'t pass, not just because the concept of health, led to such a large family \"earthquake\". Heart full of grievances for the elderly.
Concept generation gap caused contradictions
As the economic development and social transformation, young parents in the face of social pressures increasing, decline of the educational function of the family, and intergenerational educational ratio is douzeng, according to statistics, in Guangzhou near 60% in the family, children learn the important task of all life, enlightenment, counselling or partially fell on the shoulders of grandparents, grandparents.
Guangzhou City has on isolation generation education family child care of Constitution, and life habits, and health habits, and learning habits, and courtesy and labor, and independence, and gregarious exchanges, and self-control, and share concern, and knowledge desire, and parent-child relationship total 11 a physical and mental project average do had investigation comparison, results found ancestors and fathers in health habits, and courtesy and labor, and share concern, and learning habits, and gregarious exchanges aspects of expectations and identity exists widely differences, especially in health habits Shang, two generation people of identity rate near zero.
According to education experts, the elderly due to age and the age of reason, health consciousness backwards on the low level of science, knowledge, and young people an idea generation gap, generational education increasingly challenged, its drawbacks and even upgraded to family conflicts.
Generational needs tending two generations together
Isolation generation tending itself has must advantage: progenitor parents were has dependency and education children of practice experience, can cover young parents in raising children aspects of experience insufficient, play ancestors of experience advantage; because no work of pressure, progenitor parents were in mentality Shang than work tension, and pressure heavy of young parents to calm was more, comparison has patience to accompanied and education Sun generation; elderly through thick and vicissitudes Hou of simplicity, owned a \"children psychological\", easy and Sun generation established harmony of feelings, for education children created good of feelings Foundation.
Intergenerational support to achieve good results requires joint efforts of two generations of parents.
When the parents on their children for education, ancestors must not be came forward to interference, should make efforts to safeguard the authority of the child\'s parents, so that children will understand the need to respect their parents. To take full advantage of the respective advantages of intergenerational support and parental upbringing, two generations often explore the culture of children, creating the opening of a harmonious family environment for children.
In addition, because the times are different, the old man accepted \"generational tending learning\" is also necessary. Liaoning province has a \"generational parent schools\" has accepted more than more than 800 Grandpa, Grandma, Grandpa, and Grandma study, works well.
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