0 of intergenerational education is helpless
Zhengzhou people she and her husband are working parents, fight with three meals a day, forced by fierce competition for survival, 8-year old son had to be given to the child care of Grandpa and Grandma. Less worries, she works much easier, however, she soon found that the problem has occurred.
Grandpa and Grandma time, also like children, personal care on children\'s lives was very good, but on the extent of child loves to spoil. Boy in front of their very obedient, grandparents home, become unruly, effeminate:, cannot afford a little setback does not consider other people\'s feelings sth She worried about the long-term, child will out of their control fully addicted to grandparents on he principles of compromise and patience.
There\'s concern, he discovered that after living with grandparents, character 6 children have a lot of changes, for example, the children all day long in the past \"ass kicking horse jump\", noisy, but the last two years living in grandparent home, children cute and docile lot.
Mr Zhang said that, in fact, if not there are special reasons, they are willing to have its own child, after all, \"intergenerational education\" not a substitute for \"family education\". However, Grandpa and Grandma now picking up his children\'s education mission, in addition to his grateful also feel helpless, Grandpa and Grandma in poor health, prevent a child from running and jumping, he can understand, however, children of nature would be deprived of is undeniable fact.
0 fear the children into \"both sides\"
Mr Cui is filial piety, three generations have been and the United States. However, in recent months, he several times for the children with their parents to make friction, he knows Grandpa and Grandma\'s intentions are good for kids, but he did not want his parents are always in the presence of children, with their opposite. For instance, he said: \"don\'t wear shoes to go to bed the son, step on Grandma\'s quilt is dirty, Grandma how tired the quilt is washing. \"Grandma would say:\" it doesn\'t matter, let children step on it, on her dirty then wash. ”
At lunch, home made a Braised prawn, speak one of two only. Grandma saying \"I love to eat\", a share of their clips to the children in the bowl. For example, when her son eat fruit, Cui said: \"son, Wai last handkerchief or dirty, ugly clothes. \"Grandma would say:\" no, not without Wai Wai. ”
If this situation persists, son gradually realize, at Grandma\'s House, what they are doing by Grandma in charge, is different from in their own home, you can listen to the words father and mother, in grandmother\'s home and in their own home has a different philosophy of life.
Concerns Mr Cui was not unjustified, Pui Pui focus of early childhood education center in Zhengzhou, Shanghai Xi Xiaodong said, children of all are at the stage of learning, imitation, through contact with things gradually establish a judgment on the process. If parents, Grandpa and Grandma now gives children a contradictory and confusing world, it\'s hard to form a child character of the firm, crisp, handling problems in the future will need stay afloat has no.
0 \"intergenerational\" to the disadvantage of child education
Hu Limin in Zhengzhou city vocational Department believes that \' life is concerned, primary school is the key to personal qualities, character formation period, if together with the elderly people are living in at this stage, lost and the feelings of parental communication, training opportunities, at the mercy of \"generational\" special favours flooded, it will be very adverse negative impact children\'s physical and mental development.
Generation grandson of easy to spoil, isolation accommodation of older persons, particularly the one-child, slip worried in case of errors, I\'m sorry children, afraid of people blame. Thus, everything for the elderly in accordance with the child, protection of children everywhere, easy to make the children form a self-centered, selfish, willful bad personality. Excessive protection of older persons, not only killing the child\'s independent ability and self-confidence, but also so that the child becomes extremely selfish, cowardly effeminate:, delicate.
Many old people accept new thing is slow, is lagging behind the concept of education and upbringing, hope children cute, obedient, safe and secure is not unusual, not very good at using scientific, creative way to guide children. For children occurred because of the curiosity of \"trouble\", \"damage\", such as risk-taking and innovative behavior, always eager to be blocked, easy devoid of children born of curiosity, adventure and innovation.
Many children\'s psychological consultation shows that generational psychological variation can also lead to child-rearing, have some psychological problems, such as social phobia, character of strange, psychological vulnerabilities, and so on.
0 old man with children, good mood
Retired teacher Mr Sun Lao said, China\'s elderly to when retired, General of the body is very sturdy. Have a grandson in the side, support both children work, can ignore the lost and lonely, bring joy to the empty-nest family. This is a double benefit, have it both ways.
Also, is the hands of the elderly, child custody, education has a wealth of practical experience, you can make up for the lack of experience with young parents in raising children, for child patient and meticulous, thoughtful care.
Because no work of pressure and life of drag, progenitor parents were in mentality Shang than work tension, and pressure huge of young parents to peace was more, comparison has patience to accompanied and education Sun generation; elderly through thick and vicissitudes Hou of simplicity, owned a \"children psychological\", special like and children play, easy and Sun generation established harmony of feelings, for education children created good of feelings Foundation.
Reporter reflections
Grandparents, and parents communicate
In fact, children are key ideas and concepts of education keep pace with the times, is science education methods. Generational dependency need grandparents updated concept also needs ancestors with parents in educating children on the problems of communication, learning from each other and complement each other.
On the concept of children, older persons must keep pace with the times, paying particular attention to reality. For example, how to let the child do comprehensive development all around development of moral, rather than simply take care of their lives and urging them to learn cultural lessons only. We must pay special attention to educate the children ethical values, the legal system, effectively develop their cherishing, loving labor,Thrift, to be creative and good quality.
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