Babies lying there are three forms
Lying is experiencing a phenomenon in our development process of each baby, baby lying with his environment and his understanding of related, generally divided into the following forms:
Lie of fantasy
Within 3 years old baby unable to distinguish between imagination and reality, often to describe imaginary things as the real thing. They often will impromptu, and free to to own heard of story, see of things after own of imagine processing, form to reality of people or thing up, appears no logic, and does not real of \"lie\"; they also may to own of wishes imposed to a pieces things Shang, to originally does not exists of things said was with really of as, but and marred, this just they by imagine expression own wishes of a way. They have no fulfillment of this lie, with a very obvious signs of fantasy.
Passive lie
Nature babies want to do something, get the appreciation of the mother or other person of their favorite. After when they do something wrong, will lie for fear of punishment. In fact, the baby nature pure, direct, they do not hide their intentions, does not hide his emotions, does not control its own exploration of desire. But when he found his own honest caused dissatisfaction even when stripes in the mother, in order to escape the baby attempts to lie. Especially when the baby lying is successfully evade punishment, they lie acts will be encouraged.
Behavior of lying
Some spolied Chile baby by their parents, used to own all the toys, food for all. Whether they own things, as long as you like all can be quietly took it home. Loss of these things for fear of mother found babies may also made some imagine small lie to make his actions any more reasonable.
Four strategies will lie translates into wisdom
May mothers did not think, behind the lie of the baby also contains the seeds of wisdom!
For the baby, lying, especially fantasy of lying is the best witness of their thinking capacity development. As long as the mother treated separately under the baby lying and proper guidance, lying is no longer the mother of the baby headache problem. Instead, use your baby\'s lying behavior, MOM can produce a more intelligent baby full of imagination and creativity.
Strategy one: correctly treat the baby lying behavior
Lie in fact is the baby of imagination and creation process, its developing baby\'s imagination and creativity play a role should not be underestimated. When the baby lying like Lulu, my mother never scolded him: \"Lulu, Brad: what? You where there\'s a Barbie doll? \"Wise mother will say:\" baby, you do not have such a Barbie doll, but you really want a Barbie doll, right? Your imagination is really rich! You think the Barbie can do what you want? We made a Barbie story, OK? \"If the mother policy points out that the baby\'s problem, lie at the same time of forgiving your baby\'s fantasy, and induction of lie to their fantasy, baby will get rid of errors induced by lying, and bold imagination and creation. If you find that the baby has fantasies of lying behavior, my mother never scolded them because the baby lying. You know, this approach is most likely to stifle a future Nobel Prize winner for literature.
Strategy two: give baby creates more of fantasy \"lying\" opportunity
For example, is very curious baby mother cooking, then the mother with the baby while playing a fantasy of \"lying\" contest. Through such activities to stimulate the baby\'s imagination, mining their language intelligence. Mother while pretending to do all kinds of vegetable chopping action while on a baby babbling: \"now I want to give the baby to Cook, I wash eggplant, cut the dub dub, give the baby fish and eggplant in clay pot sth Well, fish and eggplant in clay pot ready, now the baby to the mother to do good. \" So the baby will develop their imagination induced by his mother, to the mother or other person to make a lot of \"delicacy\".
Strategy three: making the punishment more policy
When the baby was doing something wrong, lying to evade punishment and when to treat them like a mother not to be prepared for any eventualities. This will give your baby a lot of psychological pressure, and is not able to change your baby\'s lying behavior immediately, instead may also make the baby more dependent on lying to evade punishment. Clever mother to baby this error and do something else an article, that enable them to understand their mistakes, and lose no time in using lying behavior to develop baby\'s intelligence. For example, MOM can bluntly pointed out that the baby\'s error, gently remind the baby would not make the same mistake, and then requests to them: you can make up for his mistakes in other ways, and to be free from punishment, such as part a story of his own imagination.
Strategy four: give baby a chance to try to remedy
If the baby is lying, MOM must believe that the baby will correct the error, and may give the baby a remedial programme and opportunities for implementation of the programme as envisaged. So, you can either let baby introspection, but also by giving your baby try to remedy the opportunity, let them use their brains they solve a problem, develop a habit of responsible for their own errors. For example, took other children\'s toys baby home, mother allows baby think for themselves, what way should be taken to make up for their mistakes? Clever baby could come up with many programmes, such as the toy back to people and apologize; return the toys to the people at the same time, lend it to others to play with his toys; return the toys first people, and then discuss it with others, persuade children to toys lend themselves for a while, and so on. If the baby cannot think of programmes, mother can give your baby a few tips: \"Fifi toys you away, she is sad, you
What she is not sorry about? ”
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