Intimidation: misconduct of invitations

For children, intimidation will stimulate them to repeat one thing not to be allowed. When the children were told: \"If you sth to do this again\", he cannot hear \"If you\" these three words, he heard only \"do it again\". Sometimes he would understand this sentence: my mother wanted me to do it again, or else she will be disappointed. Warning--this may be reasonable-for adults-not only useless, but worse consequences.

Children will certainly make those annoying behavior. Warning is on the challenge of child autonomy. If he has a little bit of self-esteem, he will discipline again, this shows he is not afraid of any challenge to others.

Oliver five years old, kept to throw the ball on the living room Windows, repeated warnings is still invalid. Finally, his father said: \"If you throw the ball on to Windows, I\'ll beat you see stars, I promise. \"A minute later, a voice tells Oliver of the glass panes of the father he warned of the consequences: on the last throw of the ball in the glass. In this series of threats, after the guarantee as well as misconduct, it is easy to imagine the consequences. The following events on the contrary, when dealing with misconduct did not resort to threats, let us look at the effect.

Seven years of Peter shooting with the toy gun to his brother. His mother said: \"do not brother shot, shooting towards the target. \"Peter once again to his brother shot, his mother took his gun, said to Peter:\" the people are not used to shoot. ”

Peter\'s mother felt that in order to protect the baby, she made themselves must do, and to support her standard of acceptable behavior, her son was not hurt, the subject recognizes the consequences of their actions.

Mother implies choice is clear: either target shooting, either did not have guns. In this case, his mother avoids the usual parents make mistake, she did not take the road that clearly fails: \"Peter, stop! In addition to your brother shooting, did you think of a better game? You do not have a better target? If you do, you listen, you do it again, you never see the gun again! \"Unless the children are very docile, otherwise, for such a warning, his answer was repeated blocked thing. Described in the next scene is no longer, any parent can easily imagine.