Peer is a big \"school\"

Peer is a big \"school\"

I was a child, and like most kids at that time, I wasn\'t a day kindergarten. Before school, apart from at home and play with brothers and sisters, is in the streets and homes in the neighborhood children playing outside. Said playing, then can playing of things far no now so more, family are no what toys, men children is nothing more than is bomb glass ball, and took ocean painting, and took triangle (with cigarette case stack into triangle, placed in ground, who can to it took was turned came, who on won it), and roll Hoop, and hit turn (two people respectively to a section leg hold up, only with a section leg with to, mutual on hit, until to each other hit was lost balance, even win); girls playing of is playing shuttlecock, and jump Pijin, and jump House, and threw package, and caught turn (to a loaded with beans of cloth package threw up, to sheep of joint bone turned into various shape, caught up, then to cloth package catch). New year\'s time, and some adults to children to buy a site map of the promotion, the children with coudao, throwing dice or go gyroscope method, decided to fall into a few steps or a few steps. From the water margin, 108 in the lowest position of gold hair dog scene started, finally see who goes first to the Chao Gai, who is the winner.

And children now than we were in the material is too poor, and whether to eat, wear, play, live, using, and than there is now a far cry from, most children on the street is \"running wild\", few of the special design of pre-school education.

However, we are the generation who grew up, we are the generation who became \"the fool\", \"idiot\" ratio compared to children and now, almost no difference.

Thirty or forty years ago children than children\'s greatest feature is now \"no people\". Families with several children at that time, coupled with the poverty of life at that time, most parents have no time to children, they had to spend most of his time on livelihood. Pipe less children than, and \"no people\" and about \"freedom\" is synonymous, not her children, of course, can have more time in the street \"wild\" and \"running wild\", adventure, free. Children at that time, there are many opportunities to do what I want to do things that adults know certainly not let dry.

Then the child is the second major characteristic of partners, exchanges. Now Shang kindergarten of children, and partners of exchanges is was adults arrangements good of, children Shang has which kindergarten, and which class, he on had to and class Shang of children became a groups, apart from class Shang of these children, they own is no what Select opportunities of, because family are is only child, apart from and own of Church brothers sisters, and table brothers sisters has small exchanges outside, they is rare opportunities to street Shang \"wild run\".

I was a child, partner communication is spontaneous, and independent of their choice. Most of the groups of children on the street is \"mixed-age grouping\", five or six years old children and teenage children can play together, as long as they wish, this play with relationship can continue.

Most essential differences here. There is a great psychologist, Vygotsky, is the former Soviet Union, and psychologists all over the world now recognizes his theory. According to his story, children intellectual development and mainly at them and you will own the process of social activities, together with the more mature members of society under the interaction, gradually completed. \"More than their more mature members of society\" who is? Is nothing more than adults and older kids. For example, when playing chess, horse day, like Tin, a chess pawn, the rules, children are learned from who? Is a way from adults, but more than their children learn from higher than that of his chess kids learn. You went to the wrong move, wanted to go back, big boy a harsh words \"without retract a false move in a chess game! \"Kid no temper, you have to give up. They were chess manual dexterity, and in the smaller children playing before a show of authority than its own. Thus, children of wisdom slowly growing up chess rules was passed down from generation to generation. Like \"not to retract a false move in a chess game\", \"not to act shamelessly\", \"forbid stealing rape try to shirk work or responsibility\" of such rules does not do is when children play to learn?

In Vygotsky\'s words, when children and play with children, at the same time acts as a guiding role of the child, they are not usually hands-on teaching a child to do things, and just next to the lessons of \"instruction\" kid. This instruction is like building a House to take a scaffold when, children do children ride a scaffold, as regards and mud, brick and child regardless of the, \"you do it! \"Even brothers and sisters, so also.

In this way, children playing together, learn to do things, know a lot of things that do not understand, know a lot of games and social rules, their intellectual growth, social is the process of gradually completed.

Therefore, no matter in any society in the children\'s partnership is very important, \"Companion is a big school\" this is a little too much.

Now some parents often ask me: \"do not let your child play with other children? ”
My answer is firm: \"not only, and to create opportunities for children. ”
Parents ask: \"do not let children play with older than their children? ”
I answered the same firm: \"of course! ”

In fact, I know, the parents asked mean: \"children are child bullying do? \"MOM and dad were worried now there is a certain reason. Today, only one child in every family, appropriate care is necessary. But don\'t forget that they themselves are in the child\'s \"bullying\" brought up. Kids and play with children, at a disadvantage, of course, their strength is not big enough, wise enough, being beaten, when be bullied a lot. However, because this seems to be insufficient activity, will greatly stimulate their intellectual development \"in the zone of proximal development\", forcing them to continuously learn new East

West. At the same time, most children are not always persist in being unreasonable to bully kids, but knows more than children, and they drive the children to know that to make something, drag them to a member of the social acceptance of social direction. They act as parents cannot act as a \"Mentor\" and \"coaches\" and \"master\" role.

In fact, the same age children play together, so it is with reason. You better than me in this regard, I on the other hand stronger than you; you than to me, than I mind you; your chess well, my mouth is more than you can say This is the children together, to each other to build a scaffold, they were imitating each other, have a competition, and discuss the conflict. In this simulation, in comparison, conflict and cooperation, the children slowly progress, become smarter, know the rules, so they slowly \"grow up\".