Chen danyan Shanghai City writer, Shanghai Princess, published in recent years, and the Shanghai neglected city corners and romantic descriptions of people, aroused great repercussions. Not long ago, I airline terminals in the East to meet with her, in addition to chat with her about her work, also had the pleasure of understanding some of the education of her daughter sunny feel.??
Heavy metal music controversy??
Chen danyan daughter 15 years of age, entered a period of so-called rebel, Chen danyan says with a smile: \"the relationship between hormones and affect her moods, sometimes she is particularly pleased, and sometimes she particularly intense for certain things would behave. Recently, she bought some heavy metal music, playing time, deliberately put the volume is very large. I asked her down. She said that the strong rhythm of heavy metal music, represents her \' anger \'. \"Chen danyan said she didn\'t know what daughter in anger, just hope she can consider the feelings of other people in the House. \"Then I see good heavy metal music, will also take the initiative to buy her way I try to communicate to understand her feelings. Of course, want her to learn to understand other people\'s feelings, in behavior can be controlled. \"Chen danyan says.??
\"My daughter\'s personality is very strong and, when their stick when disputes inevitably, even several days of the cold war. \"But after two calm for some time, they will find a time, sitting in front of the table telling each other\'s ideas. \"I think, give sunny a little space, let her have independent opportunities, it is important, I will let her know that, if built on the pain of others their own happiness, then her own space will become smaller. \"Chen danyan firmly say.??
Consequences of lying??
About his daughter at the age of eight or nine, in one case, she skipped school to sloshing out. When she comes home, with my mom said, teacher meetings, make them come back early. Soon the teacher call home, exposed her lies. \"I can understand the mentality of children play truant, because when I was young and escape. \"Chen danyan says with a smile. \"Skipped school\" is actually desire out of the control environment of the children a way of thinking. On that occasion, Chen danyan has not called her, just tell her, if you really don\'t want to go to school one day, directly with my mom saying, MOM will write a leave form to the teacher, do not use surreptitious manner, as is followed by a series of lies. Daughter accept her saying, never again.??
\"Lies\" is not allowed in our home. When a grade, daughter of students came back, said to be classmates. Lie after lie, Chen danyan lessons she picked up a long stick, and the stick hanging in her room so she alert at any time.??
Academic standards consensus??
In school, Chen danyan and daughter reached a consensus, are at least medium on the results. Because his daughter says, do not want to be homework time bound. Chen danyan also think that the current education system, giving children too much homework and learning pressure, she does not want children at this stage of life, spent in pressure.??
From the \"exchange student\" growth??
His daughter at the age of 11, Chen danyan let her to exchange students to the United States lives a year. \"At first, she didn\'t want to, but she, like all good children, hoping to meet the expectations of parents--had the opportunity to learn a language, and see a different world. So she went. \"Chen danyan recalled saying. Before the daughter always sleep very safe in a familiar environment. From the United States after coming back, sleep always open music with her sleep. She said that because the United States was too static. \"I think she is to taste after taste of loneliness, find a way to a suspension. \"Chen danyan with distressed daughter tone said.??
Daughter of obligatory??
Chen danyan said, her daughter and then never Idol, daughter even to the point with people, Chen danyan in trivia of life very \"useless\". However, daughter mother was willing to help her. In one case, a mentally handicapped boy in the class of provocation certain boys in her class, a gang war thing has occurred. Later, this mentally handicapped boy back to the wrong of this group of guys, even this mentally handicapped boy\'s mother ran to open names. Teacher students get after a fight, causing all inequalities, complaining about sth So his daughter Chen danyan to enlighten the students in the class. \"I think this is something that I can do for her, of course obligatory. \"Chen danyan said.
Give children time to find their own
For a large number of books in the home, Chen danyan children who do not love to read, she does not expect children to accept her parents arranged environment. Good thing because the first contact, if it is forced to, you will lose the sense of beauty. Her daughter from the United States came back, his own pottery and sculpture course, qinlian Tae kwon do and learn cooking. Relative to the utilitarian eager to see the results, select child of her time, she said: \"at least she knows
To find what you want. \"If there is no time to find the child, children do not know what you like, do not know the value of life.??Help children achieve their dreams??
Chen danyan not worried about her daughter\'s future, because she thinks her daughter\'s qualification of medium, good interpersonal relationships, having problems know how to find out why, and can properly solve the problem, which is enough. Nowadays many parents always hope that cannot achieve their dreams, plus on the child, this child has no chance of realization of their own dreams. She believes that if the dream is a happy thing, then gave happiness to children, help children to achieve her dreams!
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