Family education \"excessive\" hazard

Excessive tutor present in many families, its healthy growth of children is often good more harm.

Excessive protection of the child survival capacity. As a child, many parents fear that their children eat well, wear well, all care for the kids, round the child turned round. Too many, excessive protection, between the child and society put up a protective wall, the child away from the community, brought up to the age but always make people feel he is not independent ability to act is getting worse.

Excessive interference in children at a loss. Curiosity is the child of nature, is the power of driving children to understand the world and transform the world. Children\'s active, will inevitably face some risks, if only for the children\'s safety, interfere, restrict children activities everywhere, not only detained children intellectual growth, and put a stranglehold on the child\'s personality development, easier to let the child prematurely aborted creative nature.

Education enables children who are tired of too much. Many parents are keen \"early education\", \"ambitious for one\'s children\", \"looking woman into Phoenix\" often consciously or unconsciously to all kinds of pressure on the child, child small age we should learn a foreign language, back learning typing, painting, poetry, learning piano and so on, that many children do not go to school on the school is full of fear, say learn heart given meaning.

Effects of excessive indulgence love child. Parents on their children excessive effects of love, a prominent manifestation of which is dull, so easily to children unruly, selfish nature, and that parents love is cheap, is taken for granted. Parent-child of love should be bi-directional, while parents in the effects of love should also let your child know how to return. If a child had a reverse psychology on effects of love, parents may turn to using \"slap education\", power politics and doting, while extreme, is reaching, are detrimental to the growth of children\'s physical and mental health.

Where the high was as a child of the ordinary

However, they know him very well in catching insects in the water with more clever. When he comes back, always show them a variety of beetles: has a Flash, Brown Shell, large circular eyes, and out of the water in the texture of neural after bending of flexible legs of sth

With respect the children\'s voice talking about him, no mockery of meaning, but they are not asked to the fresh and cool stream. Stream open most beautiful not to Ecstasy and rose water lily, there, insert a Flash into the white sands of hands, without the slightest dust stained. Children instinctively feel their brother likes to be alone. If the father to send him to the boarding schools have a holiday, he sought not to accompany, but lonely.

He knew where the most precious spent longer than. He avoided the cabin with straight streets and orderly village, through the hills and valleys to find his way. He could always find amazing things at a time, peer in the natural habitat of rare animals and birds. For the birds, he knew of their nests or living place. If you see a pair of Skylark landed in a wheat field, he does not know how to close them break around the Wo.

At that time he did not leave a picture of a pen or a pencil sketch. The future painter at that time and didn\'t want to draw, just quite coves.

Is still a small boy, he had with great curiosity, examine a sculptor\'s Assistant made of clay to his small. The age of 8 years, he painted a painting: winter garden, a cat in a crazy run on bare Apple tree.

Mother was astounded that, children Arts natural expression of feeling is so amazing, she can\'t believe it\'s true. For a long time, are parents to talk about it.

Li Ka-Shing: cultivate their independent personality

Wealth of Hong Kong Li Ka-shing, insightful in education children. He pays attention to the cultivation of children\'s personality and character. His two sons Victor Li and Mr Li long to 8 or 9 years old, Li Ka-shing, let them participate in the Board of Directors, not only allow children to attend meetings as observers, can also provide them with word \"participation\", mainly for studying father \"not money\", in good faith to win scholarship. Later, the two only with good results in the United States graduate from Stanford University, wanted to display their grand father company, career, but Li Ka-shing has decisively rejected: \"my company does not need you! Jiangshan, or your own to play, practice has proved that you are qualified to our company to serve. \"So, the brothers went to Canada, a real estate development, one went to investment banks, they have overcome unimaginable difficulties, conduct company and Bank Office, became a Canada business the best and brightest.

Li Ka-shing\'s \"ruthless\" to drive children on the road to independence, self-reliance, cultivate their courageous determination, indomitable personality and character, in this context, the United States President Roosevelt is also exemplary.

Roosevelt attaches great importance to cultivating the independent personality of children. He has a famous saying: \"in front of the son, I am not a President is father. \"He was opposed to parasitic life children rely on their parents. He let the children according to their ability to support themselves. Eldest son James 20 trip to Europe, before his departure to buy a good horse, and then wired to the father for help. Father back saying: \"you and your horse swim back! \"Son had to sell the horse, as the journey home. \"World war\" after the battle, Roosevelt\'s four sons were on the front. Father has died, they still stick to their own on their respective warships, in this particular way to see my father off.

Japan thinkers Fauser Yu JI said: \"education is the way of the protected variety independent self-esteem, and to develop greater convenience of law. \"As the Tao XING-Zhi said: let the children out of their strength, stream your own sweat, eat your own food is the hero Han. However, we many parents \"heart too soft, on children of all to belly-worship, for\" one-stop \", and\" omni-directional \", and\" series \"service, eat a ready cooked meal, yilaishenshou, day shuttle, night peidu, until fill in voluntary,\" design \"products package large of generation, like greenhouse in the of flowers,-patient has\" cartilage syndrome \", see can\'t world, by can\'t storm, results only child difficult independent, this phenomenon really was concerns. Therefore, how to cultivate the independent personality of the child, should become a required course for parents are important.

Chen danyan: give children freedom and happiness

Chen danyan Shanghai City writer, Shanghai Princess, published in recent years, and the Shanghai neglected city corners and romantic descriptions of people, aroused great repercussions. Not long ago, I airline terminals in the East to meet with her, in addition to chat with her about her work, also had the pleasure of understanding some of the education of her daughter sunny feel.??

Heavy metal music controversy??

Chen danyan daughter 15 years of age, entered a period of so-called rebel, Chen danyan says with a smile: \"the relationship between hormones and affect her moods, sometimes she is particularly pleased, and sometimes she particularly intense for certain things would behave. Recently, she bought some heavy metal music, playing time, deliberately put the volume is very large. I asked her down. She said that the strong rhythm of heavy metal music, represents her \' anger \'. \"Chen danyan said she didn\'t know what daughter in anger, just hope she can consider the feelings of other people in the House. \"Then I see good heavy metal music, will also take the initiative to buy her way I try to communicate to understand her feelings. Of course, want her to learn to understand other people\'s feelings, in behavior can be controlled. \"Chen danyan says.??

\"My daughter\'s personality is very strong and, when their stick when disputes inevitably, even several days of the cold war. \"But after two calm for some time, they will find a time, sitting in front of the table telling each other\'s ideas. \"I think, give sunny a little space, let her have independent opportunities, it is important, I will let her know that, if built on the pain of others their own happiness, then her own space will become smaller. \"Chen danyan firmly say.??

Consequences of lying??

About his daughter at the age of eight or nine, in one case, she skipped school to sloshing out. When she comes home, with my mom said, teacher meetings, make them come back early. Soon the teacher call home, exposed her lies. \"I can understand the mentality of children play truant, because when I was young and escape. \"Chen danyan says with a smile. \"Skipped school\" is actually desire out of the control environment of the children a way of thinking. On that occasion, Chen danyan has not called her, just tell her, if you really don\'t want to go to school one day, directly with my mom saying, MOM will write a leave form to the teacher, do not use surreptitious manner, as is followed by a series of lies. Daughter accept her saying, never again.??
\"Lies\" is not allowed in our home. When a grade, daughter of students came back, said to be classmates. Lie after lie, Chen danyan lessons she picked up a long stick, and the stick hanging in her room so she alert at any time.??

Academic standards consensus??

In school, Chen danyan and daughter reached a consensus, are at least medium on the results. Because his daughter says, do not want to be homework time bound. Chen danyan also think that the current education system, giving children too much homework and learning pressure, she does not want children at this stage of life, spent in pressure.??

From the \"exchange student\" growth??

His daughter at the age of 11, Chen danyan let her to exchange students to the United States lives a year. \"At first, she didn\'t want to, but she, like all good children, hoping to meet the expectations of parents--had the opportunity to learn a language, and see a different world. So she went. \"Chen danyan recalled saying. Before the daughter always sleep very safe in a familiar environment. From the United States after coming back, sleep always open music with her sleep. She said that because the United States was too static. \"I think she is to taste after taste of loneliness, find a way to a suspension. \"Chen danyan with distressed daughter tone said.??

Daughter of obligatory??

Chen danyan said, her daughter and then never Idol, daughter even to the point with people, Chen danyan in trivia of life very \"useless\". However, daughter mother was willing to help her. In one case, a mentally handicapped boy in the class of provocation certain boys in her class, a gang war thing has occurred. Later, this mentally handicapped boy back to the wrong of this group of guys, even this mentally handicapped boy\'s mother ran to open names. Teacher students get after a fight, causing all inequalities, complaining about sth So his daughter Chen danyan to enlighten the students in the class. \"I think this is something that I can do for her, of course obligatory. \"Chen danyan said.

Give children time to find their own

For a large number of books in the home, Chen danyan children who do not love to read, she does not expect children to accept her parents arranged environment. Good thing because the first contact, if it is forced to, you will lose the sense of beauty. Her daughter from the United States came back, his own pottery and sculpture course, qinlian Tae kwon do and learn cooking. Relative to the utilitarian eager to see the results, select child of her time, she said: \"at least she knows

To find what you want. \"If there is no time to find the child, children do not know what you like, do not know the value of life.??

Help children achieve their dreams??

Chen danyan not worried about her daughter\'s future, because she thinks her daughter\'s qualification of medium, good interpersonal relationships, having problems know how to find out why, and can properly solve the problem, which is enough. Nowadays many parents always hope that cannot achieve their dreams, plus on the child, this child has no chance of realization of their own dreams. She believes that if the dream is a happy thing, then gave happiness to children, help children to achieve her dreams!

Mr Tung\'s family education

International public opinion says, People\'s Republic of China Hong Kong S.A.R. first Chief Executive, Mr Tung Chee hwa is a generation ship King Tung Chao Yung \"underline a Pearl\". So, what kind of family education does Tung Chee-hwa has been? One sentence summary and that is pure patriotism and tough and pragmatic education of arduous struggle.

First, the country name

Woo Ming Tung Chao Yung wrote himself is: \"live to be meaningful sth To Chinese people proud to create heaven and Earth. ”

On May 29, 1937, was born in Shanghai, Mr Tung Chee Hwa. At that time, Tung Chao Yung is already engaged in shipping merchant. However, he deeply understand, Japanese invaders after the seizure of three eastern provinces and in the North China offensive, tragic trampling of Japanese cruel oppression of the vast land of China, the Chinese nation is in crisis, guopojiawang, and dire straits. As one of the Chinese patriotic industrialist, in the head when he not including yourself go all out, also cannot but hope in the next generation, so it give baby born children named \"Tung Chee-hwa\", hoped that he would like their motto \"to Chinese are proud to create heaven and Earth. ”

In order to enhance this sustenance, Tung Chao Yung in two birthday Tung Chee-Hwa, and wrote on the back of the photograph \"welcome the new era of the great light\" Word, sincere to serve the heart of the condensation of two generations together.

Second, to connect the father national industrial Ban Dian built a solid foundation

Tung Chao Yung in Shanghai, providing the shipping industry, after a hard struggle, finally created a base in Hong Kong, with 12 million tons--of the great ocean-going sea Kingdom \"OOCL\". At this point, Tung Chao Yung is a world-class celebrity, is one one of the richest man in Hong Kong, but is very strict requirements for their children, without pride.

Tung Chao Yung has 2 children and 3 women, according to family tradition, two sons is a family business succession, while the eldest son of Tung Chee-hwa is to focus on training object. To this end, the Tung Chee-Hwa, special to the other four brothers and sisters, not into aristocratic schools, but a Chinese school, so that the adults engaged in the cause of the Chinese nation.

Chinese middle schools of Tung Chee-hwa in the age of 13, 19, admitted to United Kingdom mechanical Department of the University of Liverpool. This during, Tung Chao Yung has became has millions assets of world level ship King, but on Tung Chee-hwa is does not to he world level rich home children of treatment, no Tung Chee-Hwa with other rich home children than advanced car, and than hand stinginess, and than wearing fashionable, but requirements Tung Chee-hwa had simple of life, to self-discipline, and since good, and self, and General students as take bus or riding bike round and campus and home Zhijian, to to mind with in learning Shang, to graduated Hou to strong of expertise tube good national industrial.

Tung Chao Yung knows that only a basic knowledge of advanced, there is no good practical skills, also cannot achieve much. So, after he graduated from the University, Tung Chao Yung and sent him to the United States to wage – General Motors most grass-roots to become a regular staff member. At this time, Tung Chao Yung ask son \"little China, can you see why I should let you into the \' universal \'? ”

Tung Chee-Hwa said, \"Dad, I understand. Because \' General \' is the world\'s largest car company, its President aerfudelei·silong the creation of the modern business management principles, first of all, I would like to also apply to our international shipping enterprise. I want to believe, I \' General \' can learn many things. ”

To more deeply understand his son to \"generic\" purpose and meaning, Tung Chao Yung emphasized again that \"little China, I do not doubt that you are a man of ideals, but I worry that you don\'t have enough hard spirit. You don\'t think they have to rely on, you must take the initiative to find hard to eat, temper their will to accept the challenges of life, so you must exercise your, starting from the bottom. Only the first to be an ordinary staff member, it possible to understand what should I treat you in the future the following staff members. After that, you can fully take into account the experience of others, start a new business to lay a good foundation for the future. ”

Mr Tung understood father arrangement, in the United States hard, solid dry for 4 years, good dad Ban Dian has built a solid foundation of national industry.

Third, not forgetting \"we Chinese\"

The early 60 \'s, United States social set off a violent wave of racial discrimination. Some ethnic Chinese are the effects of adverse political climate, appear inferiority, even dare to say they are Chinese, and lied that the Japanese or the Singapore people, and some got \"green card\" in Chinese, in front of their brethren, superior hair look.

At that time, the Tung Chee-hwa is United States, which also hit him. So easy to live and work, he asked his father stepped in to his Office on a \"green card\". Tung Chao Yung after listening to, the United States reality very angry, and son earnestly: \"no matter what nationality we are Chinese. Individuals not as, no matter what nationality, no one can afford it. \"Tung Chee-Hwa, is pleased to accept the teachings of father, decided to: hold head to do their thing, shall not be a\" green card. ”

Son of Tung Chao Yung education cannot forget \"We also are

Chinese \", and he himself is acting. As the business dealings of a dozen years, Tung Chao Yung and United States elite established a close relationship. But when a few former Presidents Carter, Reagan, Nixon, Ford and asked him to go after dinner, advised him to join the United States when the nationality, but he politely declined. United Kingdom\'s Queen Elizabeth and Prince Charles are Tung Chao Yung have had good relations, also had like Americans lobbied Tung Chao Yung joined the British, and to grant a Peerage and \"JP\" title, but he politely declined each. Is so, his friends made it clear that: \"took the foreigners \' passports, foreigners are still regard you as a Chinese, why not go directly to the identity of the Chinese, what are the achievements in the future, are Chinese. ”

It is the father of education and influence, when the father died after President Bush to United States naturalization to Tung Chee-Hwa issued invitations on behalf of the Government, Tung Chee-Hwa, as in father, politely declined. For two he remember his father\'s teachings: \"we are the Chinese\", \"Chinese are proud to create heaven and Earth\".

Heads of fertility view?

Former President Reagan had four sons, Reagan would not allow these sons live with their own in the White House, not to lend their influence to the children for their own benefit. Four sons were consciously abide by the fathers of the Convention, they had a man to live into the White House, and eldest son after unemployment, themselves to apply for unemployment benefits, four sons had never requested the parents a little bit unfair advantage.??

Misha the son of the late President Tito of Yugoslavia, now has nianguobanbai, he left home at the request of the father since childhood struggles, incognito, neither accepted father asylum, his father also gave him asylum. Misha from an ordinary workers dry up, on their own honest labor and tenacious perseverance, became the head of an oil company.??

Singapore Lee Hsien Loong, the son of former Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew, playing small intelligent exception, 14 years, and he can speak three or four languages. After stepping into the political, is a fish, until the Ministry of trade and Industry Minister. Just when people thought that he will be the successor of Lee Kuan Yew, Lee Kuan Yew has said the job of the Prime Minister is not private property, cannot be passed on to his son. Too much of the Lee Hsien Loong has not complained, he said that fighting come only on its own practical, inexplicable gift will only bring disaster to the people.??

United Kingdom Prime Minister John major before very strict House rules, son James after entrance fail in an entrance examination, major unmoved, require son way, James had to store dry Porter\'s work. He also helped shopping malls selling socks, underwear, dog and cat drinks, shopping centre, no one knows the handyman is the Prime Minister\'s son.??

Requirements after Chairman Mao Mao an Ying grew up the son of father to his own work, Chairman Mao gave him a bag of millet, and sent him to Yanan and the villagers were living together. After the outbreak of the Korean war, he personally to Mao an Ying sent to front-line battlefield, unfortunately sacrificing the son he ordered buried in place after the Korean battlefield.??

&Quot; Forbes mainland China rich " education stories

Wealth is Chinese \"well-off\" important indicators, \"Forbes rich 2002 mainland China\" fertility story from the perspective of a new plunge of Regal life, demonstrate their colorful tutor. This issue, we would continue to introduce some \"rich in mainland China\" tells the story fertility, believe vivid case, advanced concepts can help every reader to amend such as vision, perseverance, and grasp the opportunity, wealth in life quality, family child heart implantation of a particle at the same time powerful seeds of wealth.

Liu Yonghang: encouraging good children

In my initial, young son. Determined the nature of the work between a child and I cannot \"zero distance\". I would like to, simply let children start \"semi-independent\" of life. I am a cruel, will foster son to a friend. Children see I often complained about. Cruel? Maybe. Children eager to stay with parents, nature is, but I am going to engage in business, how could children every day \"close contact\" Ah!

However, the child is the most closest and I.

Each time, as long as we both father and son get together, I took him to the bookstore. Buy what kind of books? He bought good story book. Children were very happy, so I a a story told to him. I used the story of Marie Curie to tell children the truth of life: human intellectual achievement, to a large extent dependent on the character of noble, but man of noble character is best developed when young and out of. I said, \"my child, do you want to be smart people? If you want to, you must have good behavior. You are the father\'s love, Dad proud of you such a child! Efforts! \"

While I get along with children for long, I watch every drop of at every point of the child, son was just a good thing, even if one thing is very, very small, as long as reflecting his \"good\" side, I used the \"magnifying glass\" to praise him.

Son in high school, I feel he will be able to cope with the outside world alone, I can give him full independence, so he went to the United States.

In the United States, he often communicate with me, we talked on the phone up to his side of story. For example, he said that bad people do bad things must be done, the good thing will have the good of this more meaningful than discussions make much money. Many Flach point son, he is pure and transparent, good integrity, evidently, a strong sense of, a national pride. Children\'s mentality is very healthy.

A Japan students discriminate against China, on many public occasions to belittle China and China to pieces. My son is unbearable, the Japan students called to the classroom next to an empty room, stare at him: \"what are you speaking? You look down on China, insulting Chinese people! I warn you, don\'t you nonsense! I will stand for you! \"Hear my son let him, the Japan student obediently admit.

My wife says: anything on his bold, but I said: \"he did not do wrong, a person should have a national pride, with me, I will do so. \"

Children in the process of growing up, my business has been in a period of growth, I don\'t want children from an early age like LeBron, special care by others. I hope the child growth processes of natural, simple, without outside interference.

Children from small to large, has been like an ordinary child, and not subject to special treatment, I seldom give him a special feeling. Children know the hard work of parents, understand the importance of doing good, this is my greatest comfort.

The end of December 1995, our family in the United States, a shop to buy things, Reynolds. Store clerk to tell us when we package items, there is a large store in the vicinity, and tell us walking route.

She wanted the business to other people to do? Obviously not.

Son said: \"we\'ll see if back pay. \"After we found that big store, only to find that big shop is next to our hotel, shops in this shop are all good in there.

Should go back? If we return to the shop to pay money to go the long way around. But son decided to go back to buy a package of things in the shop, he said that although no pay, but shop assistant had packed the waiting for us. We smile at each other husband and wife: my child, Director of you thinking of others, is right!

So we decided to return to shop.

Syracuse Reynolds Street cold and windy, snow flying, we only wear thin sweater, felt at the rustle tremble, but felt very at ease. When shopping, we simply did not expect to stay out so long.

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sp; I said: \"if we\'re back to the hotel directly at this time, would not eat cold air will not endure cold. Why shop back then? \"

Son said: \"I feel we are doing is not a personal matter. United States shop assistant so sincere, to show us a better store, go back if we do not buy that bag, conscience is quite upset. I don\'t want to let the United States shop assistant for our Chinese left a bad impression. \"

Doing good work son has become a habit.

I now come to Shanghai, children from the United States came back, we were in Shanghai. I think that children be children of the future, but I encouraged him to become useful people of the community.

(Narrator tips: Liu Yonghang, Sichuan xinjin people, \"Forbes rich 2002 mainland China\" ranked eighth in major industry for animal feed, assets of about US $ 1 billion. ）

Wu Liang: don\'t give children pocket money

I have four sons and a daughter. Boss graduated from China University, Shenzhen University in the second, third now of Aeronautics and Astronautics, the old four study at Beijing University, going to United Kingdom study, youngest son reading first in Ningbo.

Talking of youngest son, there is still a story!

This summer, the youngest son schools prepare students \' summer camps. Schools to parents on a \"Bill\": the United Kingdom, $ 29,000, New Zealand, 22,000 yuan, Beijing, $ 10,000. Son looked at, \"the Bill\" a throw into the bag, not ignored.

The next day, the teacher feedback but don\'t see my son. \"What are your parents disagree or you are not interested at all? \"The teacher was puzzled.

Son said, \"teacher, I want to go to the United Kingdom, and want to join the students also participate in summer camp, but was too expensive, I\'m sorry, had better later. \"

The teacher asked: \"your parents \' money, will not let you go? You didn\'t tell your father? \"Son nods.

I know after my son said, \"boy, you\'ve been dying to go to the United Kingdom, or go to the bar. To see the world abroad, pay more friends, is still very good, although the price is a little expensive, but I hope you cherish this chance. \"

Son to the United Kingdom zhiqian, we gave him 1000 as pocket money. 20 days later, the son went home, he gave us 515 pounds. Son spent 20 days in a foreign country only 485 pounds, of which, 400 pounds to buy gifts, count down, these days he spends only 85 pounds!

To be honest, I\'m not going to design children\'s future, but has been strict with children, such as trying not to give children pocket money or less, so that they develop thrifty habits since childhood. If you want to provide home for money, must be justified, said no reason not to get the money. Slowly, the children developed a habit of planning. Desire to spend my children and then the next generation is not very large, it makes me very pleased. Deposit thick soil particles, and their parents \' deeds, the living environment will affect the future of children.

Many parents of young children early investment. I oppose. Now, everyone\'s life better, to let children learn to paint, learning piano, if only hobby, of course, understandable. However, if the direction of future development such as children, there is a problem. Parents according to their own wishes to the future development of the children, this is not scientific. Children become ideas end up in the \"talent\", parents tend to be very disappointed. Many only child not filial piety to parents when they grow up, parents are to blame. Because children do not have their own space, their development is framed by parents, prone to psychology.

My children\'s future only for reverie: son to my career, the other four children does not matter, the civil service exam. Of course, I will not force children to do, I will respect the choice of their own. If they decide to venture capital, I will fully support them, companies can provide children with a solid entrepreneurial conditions. Eldest son not interested in traditional industries, interested only in high-tech. I do not have to insist they must and I have similar tastes and interests. Children and I are two generations, there is a generation gap between each other, quite normal. Now, my family with me, my wife, son, and so three people engaged in businesses. As long as the child not be harmful to the community you can let go, do not have to too death, too tight tube.

I told the children to do good for society, and \"better a person in the world I, I will never live in the world\". I do not allow the children to contamination \"privileges\" concept.

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p; Youngest son was 6 years, learned the driver of the phone told me and the Director of the Office for him. Don\'t look at his small age, developed a bad habit. To this end, I was worried, in 1996 and sending their children to the Hangzhou foreign language school.

It was against my practice, I. In fact, do this at least three benefits: first, to keep children away from home, away from effeminate:, wayward; second, exercise ability of his, let him learn to stand in the communal life; three is to make a group of friends, and lay the foundations for his future personal development.

Somebody appreciates me, call me \"psyco\", but I thought it was \"rainy day\".

I\'d like to say to parents in the world: do not deliberately go to children\'s creativity, to create greater space for development of children, let them go to development, develop their creativity.