Childhood \"love\"

I always thought I was the only child in the most loved person in the world, but suddenly one day he told me he was going to marry him like a little girl.

One day, my son and millet came back from the kindergarten, with a broken heart. \"I picked flowers Ai Ai, I give him my dessert, I told her, Catherine. However, why she said, she got married and only performance. \"\" MOM, \"millet distressed asked me,\" How can I let Ai Ai like me? ”

I don\'t know what in time, like suddenly entered a new world, faced a problem had not wanted to. On the front of this one or wearing underwear of cartoons small Romeo, I tried to find a reasonable explanation.

Heard it\'s not kid announced suddenly fell in love with his children to school, I believe that all of his mother and me alarmed. Okay, I know, this is a normal phenomenon. For children aged four or five, emotional experience of the first (very often end in frustration) will be their way of life an experience of great value. On one hand, they begin to learn to handle their emotions, not on the one hand, they will learn how to talk to (usually the mother).

When you love everywhere

Psychologists explained: when a boy of four or five declared \"I love x\" is usually only means that he is very fond of and so together. And they used \"love\", \"like\" this class was startled by your wording, but it was just because he had heard adults say.

Little guy from big people talk about \"love\" meant likes a very specific, of course, children also may be expression upon same-sex love, but in any case, of which, without associated with romantic love in the real sense. This is a warm and lovely feeling, there is only one simple meaning; your baby desire and have a child outside the establishment of a contact.

And, just like the children there are always new toys, this emotion tends to disappear in the hurry (but there are very few exceptions, will last a long time).

Children of this age are usually emotional. Previously confined to the emotion of family members, will begin to spread as the expansion of the scope of their activities – kindergarten children. Teacher of the class, or even only come across a number of the girl in the Park. At the same time, they also began to imitate adult approach to love. This is why immersion in \"love\" of children often talked about in \"marriages\". Even seriously get a wedding or something.

On the surface, these behaviors seem to be the children of early performance, but is in fact very much in line with characteristics of children of the age of four or five. \"Children like to imitate adults in this age of\" United States children\'s psychological and behavioral researcher Dr Judy explains: \"with a small package to this imitation can be to go to work, may also be going to a child he liked \' married \'. And this copy is in fact the children a way of trying to understand the adult world. ”

As the children grew older, his growing activities, gradually expand the scope. Began to have part of his life out of your Visual outside of red, you are no longer as before could understand every detail of life of children. Things often became has such: until small girl suddenly in dinner of when announced to \"married\", you only suddenly found she is experience one emotion impact; until children to you taught he in to \"girlfriend\" of painting Shang wrote Shang own of name, or bent on to invited a children to participate in he of life party, you only began thinking should on children of feelings problem given how of help.

However, as a parent, please remember: no matter your child active revealed his feelings secret, or do you happen to find him and a little girl walking hand in hand in a small park. You can feel surprising or funny, but please keep a calm face, resulting in not to laugh, not to ridicule, not kids can say he is too small or not love it. \"To respect the child\'s emotions, and can make him feel that you are a absolute dependent objects to be heard. This is very important. \"Niu Di said. Therefore, the best answer is to calmly say: \"it\'s good. You have a new friend. \"Then let it go.

With the love of combat

If your child of this lovely feeling goes, it is much better--little guy and a good friend. However, he sometimes \"laughable mistakes\" was rejected, he likes the children probably no noticed his existence.

So, how can you do? Do not rush immediately stood in front of the children, try to change everything for him. You should help him learn to handle their own problems. Part of this experience is important on the path of growth, will help the children gradually established resistance to frustration and self-confidence.

In many cases, rejected your child needs is a little bit of comfort and compassion. You can tell him, \"people like you don\'t want to be with you, it does make people sad. \"If the children were very sad, you can ask him first if I need your help, and then to offer a few suggestions. For example: if I were you, I went to talk to other children play. Or do you think, what do you actually have a lot of good friends, they are with you together.

In fact, children sometimes have their own good way to solve the problem. Long Ping Estate, my five year old little nephew is such a \"gifted\" children. In his kindergarten at the same time there are two little girls like him. A discussion and negotiation, decision, who first learn to whistle, long Ping Estate, who \"married\".

My sister told me the story of time laughing lumbar straight up: \"the long Ping Estate, you know how to say: \' every man needs a blow

Whistle\'s wife. You say right? ’”