One United States scholars in order to ascertain children\'s inner world, understand their own parents and families what the most pressing requirements, visited more than more than 20 countries, on more than 10,000 different colour and different economic conditions of school-age children conducted a large-scale survey. Survey results are amazing: requirements of the children to their parents and families in the first place is not economic, material conditions. They eat, wear, and play things seem to not care about, on the contrary, was very concerned about his family life. The scholar concluded that among children for their parents \' ten of the most important requirement is:
1. the presence of children, parents do not quarrel;
2. for each child should be treated equally;
3. at any time are not lying to or occurring in children, talking to count;
4. mutual humility between parents, do not blame each other;
5. to close between parents and children;
6. when the child\'s friends to visit, to welcome;
7. children cannot now hot and now cold, nor lost their tempers easily;
8. home should be cherishing, deciding body should seek the views of the whole family;
9. the importance of cultural activities in family, on Sunday to playing outdoors for a long time;
10. parents have disadvantages children can also be criticized, children should be welcomed different opinions.
Is not difficult to see from this ten requirements, children are most concerned about is the family atmosphere and attitude to take. Their idea of a good parent, a good family, should have a friendly, relaxed, tolerant, democratic and lively atmosphere. In such a good family life, the most conducive to the growth of children mental and physical health. Instead, they most climate is cold, tension headache, stuffy, arbitrary, lifeless family.
Maternal and child health station in a city in Liaoning province children\'s psychological study group had more than more than 3,000 school-aged children in the city conducted a survey of psychological state, of which one is \"what do you fear most MOM and Dad\". The answers varied, but it is worth thinking about, up is not the answer \"mum and dad hit me,\" but \"what I fear most parents angry, afraid of them quarrel.\" There is a paper to write a good:
\"What I fear most father angry, his angry look fierce! Crying mothers anger, I was like a little mouse, directly in the heart throb, rice is also eaten down sth \"
A city detention sector on accept detention of 236 name slipped juvenile for has once slipped causes investigation, results also was surprised: in 236 name juvenile in the, family rupture or has reached rupture edge of, parents Zhijian often quarrel of accounted for 43.6%; family life lax, and blind pursuit material enjoy, is so-called \"pleasure type family\" accounted for 37.7%; on children unchecked, and doting pampered or any corporal punishment of family accounted for 28.4%.
These facts, is sufficient to show family atmosphere on the formation of children\'s psychological health and moral character of how important a role. Currently, it can be said of all young parents in training their children are willing to spend, also recognize the important intellectual investment, buying a piano and tutors are long, but little attention to their lead, with little attention their family atmosphere to create. They think smaller children, do not know what, you only need parental love, care, command and discipline is enough. As for the couple said what, what, what preferences, loathe what children are indifferent. This is wrong. In fact, children that both bright eyes, is a full channel TV recorder; the pair smart little ears, like a tape recorder with high efficiency, the parents in front of their words and deeds are recorded, stored in the brain. This plays a very important role in their psychological development. Some families, couple arguing, your mouth is a rude or pawing her, family atmosphere is often strained, the enormous pressure on the child\'s psychological. Some parents, long-term feelings not, reticent at home, always stretched gloomy faces, in which children suffer punishment of life in an atmosphere, depressed by nature of their innocence. Time is bound to damage their mental health, will make children cold and lonely, stubborn, rude, as a mental deformity, prevents them from becoming useful material.
Young parents, when you recognize that family atmosphere on the children\'s mental health after the role is so important, what should you do intend to? Good family atmosphere not grow on trees, all on you carefully to create.
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