Going to a father, apart from the excitement, he is somewhat overwhelmed: baby in the womb of his wife, what can I do? Youjiner did not know where to make, is that many prospective fathers confusion. How to help him faster and more accurate access to roles?
Pregnant women maternity accelerated flow, rise in the body, a mother\'s coming naturally, to the baby, all of the thought, do try to do it. However, he seems to forget people around, baby in the end is not in his body with, so, and not, like also it is not too much difference. However, how is that line? After all, he is the father!
He had a similar problem if you and make the following test:
Give him a psychological test which of the following situations and problems he will have to respond to:
1. In daily life, when confronted with a difficult problems to resolve, he will:
A try to solve, or discuss with you and friends.
B to make the people around (including you) to help him with his agent.
C any processing, don\'t care about doing good or bad, just deal with the past.
2. On the costumes to dress up, he will:
A more traditional, a rare popular elements, but focus on clean, tidy, don\'t love new clothes.
B pursuit of fashion, it is famous, reset the load can be comparable to stars.
C get his own way, sometimes simple, sometimes scare you jump.
3. Evaluation of his woman:
Enjoy a beautiful, gentle, good woman, think women should also have the ability to work, but the best do not have to work 12 hours a day.
B appreciation right, rich, powerful woman, think that\'s a new generation of women.
C enjoying independent and decisive, a character of a woman.
4. He thought most tourist places:
A, Japan and the United States, and Canada and other developed countries.
B France, and Greece, and Italy, and Eastern Mediterranean, preferably in the Super Deluxe.
C India, Africa, singular adventures, such as the silk road journey.
5. His view of the next generation:
A time with their children as much as possible, and convinced that particularly impact on children of family education.
B your precision is not expensive, will do everything possible to arrange children enrolled in nobility schools.
C give their children a full freedom, their course.
6. He considers himself in the eyes of the opposite sex is:
A good man, take care of the thoughtful, everything he has resolved.
B smart, smart, know how to seize every opportunity.
Evaluation of c does not care about women, believing that gender relations are born to each other.
7. His concept of love is:
When a love seriously, pay attention to the woman character, fun girl, are in no way his object.
B loving can have, but personal future is more important.
C believes that at the same time you can fall in love with two or three women, love is not 1+1.
Test results
A: most answers: your he belonged to the \"bike-man\".
Identify key words: \"go rest, I do, you do not control everything! ”
Typical characteristics: typical centered and will do more mature psychological preparation, more competent father role. But usually do a good dad\'s wishes and plans of the stronger, children have their own views, if you do not understand his true feelings inside, also prone to friction in the future.
Mentoring programmes:
Look like books, movies, and occasionally romantic afternoon walk, listen to audio
Club, were you can relax or vent activities of the emotions. In leisure time, when two individuals are in a good mood, a chat with him his knowledge of the baby, he made plans for baby in mind, and so on. Understanding you and he can on the basis of exchanges, avoid disagreements because children\'s problems in the future.Exchange with his mood diary, is a good method. Words easier to open the way to write out each other\'s concerns, and to help each other later, clearing some unnecessary anxiety. Like a child-like innocence, no face to face, in the treatment of children you can on the issue of unscrupulous debate and discussion, with a view to eventually be able to reach agreement, or at least seek common ground.
Taking the time, and watch some of the discussed problems of single parent families with his books or TV shows. Let him in the process of understanding the healthy growth of children, father and mother are indispensable. In the future life, as he must not be arbitrariness of the father, only your right, and can really educate children.
When he was to have a baby of the future with vision, or just you and don\'t let him be his past thoroughly forgotten. You have regular appointments of local memories together with his love of good times. Baby belt gave him as a father of joy, but it also makes it easy for him to ignore the role of husband. So you have to remind him that three beginning of human life, does not mean the end of two romantic, you may need the protection and care of the baby.
Experts: for \"bike-men\", insight into his ideas and he often exchanges are the most important. Child in his eyes is important, so for the future of the children he already had his own carefully planned, ignoring your existence, whether as a wife or mother. You often exchange with him through a variety of methods, not only avoid contradictions and intensified due to differences of opinion, but also made him more aware of family, children, and how important you are.
B: the answer up to you he belonged to the \"aircraft-type men.\"
Identify key words: \"I have dinner tonight, I don\'t have to wait, you eat it! ”
Typical features: continue to be used in its own way, not zhejia all day, not at all prepared, still in the two people in the State of the world, likely will have a mental disorder.
Counselling programme: coordination of good life, not the sexual life of woman after pregnancy cannot, you should be considerate of his mind, and led him in the sexual life, tell him with kind words, is that he gave you this baby, your love for him, want to stay and he often, common baby he gave you raise. Not only can greatly alleviate his mental pressure, even more important is you can also let him remember the crystallization of the baby are you, baby, he has to shoulder the responsibility of the.
Convinced he and his knowledge of common learning about pregnancy, childbirth, childcare, such as: participation in the course of pregnancy, pregnancy, pregnant friends club activities experience experience will be waiting. Let he with you experience life of happiness and hardship in the process, this would be in his future life forever with a grateful heart to you and your baby.
Tell him how much you cannot do without him, hope that the baby was born, he also can work with you to face, share, or you will not stand. You weak and demonstrated a deep attachment to him, will inspire his instinct for male man and play.
Buy a three-person bike, doing a three-person training plan, a three-person travel plans, told him that one more baby, you will enjoy with two very different kind of sweet and happy life. Let him into the lives of three people in advance, will make his role in the process of change is more natural and smooth transition.
Experts: for \"aircraft-type men\", so that he have a sense of responsibility is the most important. Perhaps fly too long, he concept of effects of indifference. Only made him more intense feel your warmth and love, let him understand that children are precious gift of God gave you, he may be against a new definition of the concept, is the father of the pride and sense of responsibility.
C: the answer up to you he is a \"beautiful sports car-man\".
Identify key words: \"honey, eat Western food we went to the evening movie tonight! ”
Typical features: ingratiating in speech such as honey, talking without doing, coaxed my wife, so nice to future, no children came after trouble, rather than face the trivial domestic difficulties well escaped.
Mentoring programmes: with him to see some more family life with children, while see while telling him: \"Caramba int, we did have to run around in circles every day like this? \"Keep the various living conditions that may occur after having a baby into his mind, add up, would he have fully prepared to face the reality of trivial life, coordinate relationships, both work and family.
Join with him in the household expenditure account
, Purchased the things your baby need, for the baby with layout of the room, and discuss whether the baby to the family\'s nanny care or family care for the elderly, fancy baby with every step of the planning for the future, and so on. You create a three-person households in the process of preparing, he will understand: no longer just two in the future of the world, there are many things that should and must be done by him, it is impossible to escape.To go with him to visit some have made the father\'s friend, after a friend told him to do the father\'s experience, and he personally see as the father of life. For busy for him, this is the fastest, and most vivid channel to gain valuable experience.
Experts: for \"beautiful sports car-man\", the most important is to make him aware of the child\'s family life is a reality and trivial. This male people only see the romantic and elegant side of life, and you need to do is persuasive, let him see the other side of life. With him to understand, to learn, to enable him to face life, coming of the lives of three fully prepared.
You know, when faced with too much change, too many negative people will loss or envisaged. Strong support on the one side, accept heard concerns all unpleasant, naturally cloudy, enjoy the sunshine! Believe in your good help, he must be from one of your dad becomes a real good dad!
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