Contemporary social life pace, parents work no time to raise and care for young children, when the grandfather (grandfather), Grandma (grandmother), he decided to stir up the heavy burden of caring for grandchildren, granddaughter, people in this way is called \"generational support\". \"Generational dependency\" effect how?
Road, at the age of 5, like Grandpa\'s way, with a willow stick, with later perform to SB. \'s baton, while go or spit the phlegm. If someone questions, the road is always learn to Grandpa like pulling a long Chamber, was way out of the leisurely, and sometimes sprinkled with \"take it back\", \"that man\", a long time also did not explain what the mouth. Grandpa likes to say: \"the children learn what like what NET tell the adults\".
In recent years, \"intergenerational support\" seems to have become some of the main mode of modern families raising children. It is true that share their children\'s home for the elderly, to pressing, is useful, but one should see that memory in the elderly natural aging characteristics such as recession, slow thinking be subtle effects on children. And education of older persons on the grandchildren, granddaughter of indulgence will enable tutoring imbalance of the normal.
One disadvantage: generational support, most prone to spoiling. Because lock Sun, once it becomes a reality, ancestors always into ecstatic in earnest attitude, they will be treasured \"hard\", resulting \"in your mouth, holding in my hand has fear of flying\" unnatural practices. At the same time, the face is the third generation of the one-child, elderly psychologically will have some scruples – if it has errors, fear their children blame. Therefore everything according to the children, everywhere around the child, children with errors are not corrected in time, children unreasonable desires often without principle to be met.
When the ancestors of old time, children have grown up, impossible to also inconvenience to familiar touch. Now has a grandson, also can be faintly seen when the sons and daughters of their own shadow, it will be the sons and daughters of all emotions poured in Sun Tzu\'s possession. The result, when the tube, pipe up; the yen when Yen up. When kids everywhere over these cities, they will finish over and over again; children stumble when they worry about their children fall down, holding children up and down floor, sth So all excessive protection limits the development of the child\'s independence and self-confidence, enhanced child dependency, let your child become arrogance and wayward, selfishness, dependence.
Second disadvantage: ancestors do not to use parental concept to grandson of modern science. He (she) often easily satisfied in even indulge in the past, \"successful experience\" or \"lessons of failure\", upon using Yu Sunzi. This modern parental lack of knowledge, coupled with the earlier said two points, it is easy to let the grandparents in to \"spoil\" errors. On the behavior of children such as vandalism, try and all have adventure and exploration of innovative behavior, grandparents are always eager to stop: when children when there is a dispute with your partner, always proceed from the interests of their children, fearing that their children suffer.
Its three disadvantages: long for grandparents raising children will certainly affect the feelings of children and their parents, create barriers between parents. Often loved children and the elderly, by contrast, parents are much more stringent, which in the child\'s opinion it is easy to form \"Grandpa and Grandma loves me, MOM and dad doesn\'t hurt\" the feelings of illusion, thus affecting the parent-child relationship.
Its four disadvantage: generational dependency to adversely affect the health of the elderly, for children to spend a lot of effort and energy, \"serve\" one eat drink sleep Lazarus need someone to take care of the children, older people will inevitably limited, which damage their physical and mental health.
Intergenerational support nor benefits are not, of course. There are four benefits of intergenerational support:
A useful child health. Thoughtful, care of the elderly, children get sick less, eat a balanced, natural grow.
Second, young parents to obviate worries, exhibition business we render. The children to their parents, is probably the most comfortable. Young parents of kexin grandchild, the whole world.
Third, can meet the aspirations of older people enjoying family happiness. This is probably the most important. Retired, all right, Yi Sun, do not each most happy thing?
Four are grandparents as parents did not have ambitious for one\'s children of utilitarianism in General, would not go to force children to study it. Therefore, close to the psychological needs of the child more easily, more children live a natural, easy, and this is precisely the lack of many young parents.
Childhood is the foundation of life building, for the children\'s health, a sense of responsibility of the parents should consider child support issues, make suitable arrangements.
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