Grandparents raising questions

Issue: inconsistent family education ideas of the most harmful

If staying with three generations under one roof, because the concept of reason, very easily lead to conflict, especially in terms of educating children, John had just 4 years old, special to eat, in kindergarten, he can eat 11 steamed buns, home according to eat not to miss. Mother reluctantly suggested to the grandmother, John came back from the kindergarten don\'t eat him up. Grandma said that economic conditions at home so well now, children want to eat something or control, that was not the old days? The results under the doting Grandma, John now has more than 45 kg, waist circumference rough than the mother. On one occasion, mother won\'t let him eat chocolate, John was punched to the mother, was playing mother bleeding DC! son has been watching TV, father let your child turn off the TV writing job, children at father no aerobic scolding of the sentence. Father severely criticized child no corrections, but Grandma aside saying: \"keep quiet, he\'s smarter than when you were young, when your age will not curse!\"
This practices only will let children lost, he does not know the listen to who of, authority consciousness lost, value concept and correct of behavior habits difficult to established, then large some zhihou, children will using different adult Zhijian of language for own of various bad behavior looking for excuse, for using Grandpa Grandma words to refuted father mother, also will using father mother words to refuted Grandpa Grandma, this very fatal.

Issue II: indulgence is grandparents in common

Some experts from small children who grow up in nurseries, kindergartens and psychological comparison ancestors brought up children, found that they are completely different. Strong sense of primary school students who grew up in kindergarten groups, adaptability, social circle, many things can you do yourself, courageous, very little will be able to cross the road. Brought up by the ancestors students are not, some had two or three years, also transfers to the elderly, not hands-on, like bags, don\'t want to do. Having problems. Slightly unhappy, crying, the spoiled, lack of ability, not gregarious.
Spoiling is grandparents with children\'s problems. Excessive love for third generation of the elderly, children often dull, caring, so poor children with great ability of daily life for the elderly; some older persons on the grandchildren also responsive, as long as the request of grandchildren, whether it is reasonable, is unreasonable, will be met. Such children often domineering, own way. Some disadvantages of elderly easy kids \"shield a shortcoming or fault\", are inconsistent with the method for parent education, education of children. This above several cases that are mainly \"generational\" \"parent\" Word spread, often grandparents to grandchildren to monopolize everything, responsive, disadvantages inclusion, wrong understanding. Such education must obstruct the child independent consciousness of formation and development of independent behavior.

Problem three: experience instead of scientific knowledge about early childhood education

A \"generational investigation of tutor in the family\" shows that ancestors and parents in the child\'s concept of education there is a huge difference. According to the survey, in the \"from the performance of the child at the age of 3 are likely to see his future\" on this issue, 70% ancestors agreed, and parents agree with the view of only 21%. \"You upon proper request to the child, can persist in the end does not change\" issue, can not change the ancestors only 27%, father is 46%, visible ancestors doted on children than fathers. In addition, you cannot often find ancestors 33% of disadvantages children, fathers only 3%, it is clear that ancestors \' understanding, observation is far better than their parents. Huge differences in parental concept will inevitably lead to different education results.

Question four: ancestors of \"custody\" led to grandchildren activity closed

In some communities, we often see the elderly with children by the roadside, downstairs sitting Sun, children or obediently sat watching pedestrians coming and going; or are looking to do in my arms for the elderly, listening to the beat took home. This phenomenon is a certain reason.
In the previously mentioned \"generational investigation of tutor in the family\" We also found that \"do you encourage children playing outdoors running, jumping, enjoy\" issue, ancestors and parents very different, often encourage ancestors only 12%, and parents are 55%. Due to the ancestors of restrictions on the children to take more than a boot \"custody\", so children active communication consciousness of weak, skipped-generation households of children playing active children found in 9%, non-generational family of children is 24%.
Infant and childhood is precisely the children strong intellectual curiosity, critical period of plenty of physical and mental activity, this stage need to give them a reasonable amount of intellectual stimulation and physical activity. If enclosed in a small child in the environment, children often develop within, not athletic habits and lifestyle. Such children adapt to the community and those of children and parents will differ, this growth is clearly unfavourable to children.