A child in its long years of growth, will inevitably make mistakes, large and small, it is a normal phenomenon. When children make a mistake, different parent view different mining methods: some believe that \"small child\" adopt a casual attitude, sit, not corrected, connived at the children\'s fault; there are parents but a storm in the fault of the children raise to a higher plane of principle and two-line struggle, raise a big Rumpus severely reprimanded, and sarcasm, and even penalty kneeling, martial arts such as shadowboxing swordplay etc added to punish their children. The two methods of education are very extreme, very wrong, the former asylum, let the children have not been timely corrected once again repeat the mistake, over time or even into the differences the way of life; the latter put up a pageantry, deeply shakes the soul of the child.
Parents hope that a son will grow up to be successful, punishing children well intentioned is self-evident. But educators believe that children learned from punishment was \"never again\", the penalties can only reduce the incidence of children bad behavior, but learn \"what to do\" and cannot promote child develop good behavior and habits. Punishing this keenly felt pain lessons of \"lessons learned\" and \"malignant stimulation\", often bred resentment in the hearts of young children, and breeding of antagonistic psychology, generated a great deal of harm. Some parents regard to their dignity and authority as parents, underestimate the personality and self-esteem of children, in punishing child, irrational, often dominated by their own emotions, forgetting the purpose of punishment of, making the punishment a parents vent hate and disappointment. Harsh language, rude attitude of parents, and even worse means will harm the child\'s self-esteem and self-confidence, will cause the child stress, negative emotions such as anxiety, fear, aggression, and children skipped school, lie, runaways and other acts of impunity, at the same time leads to child psychology rebel, negative attitude, behavior, degenerate, adverse reactions, seriously affected the healthy personality development of children.
In day-to-day family education, parents taught is very unwise to penalties. Only when the other active education methods to no avail, can only consider sanctions. Parents should understand the purpose of punishment of children is to make it understood \"what not to do\", when a child is undesirable behavior immediately implemented, let the children know the consequences of bad behaviour in a timely manner. \"Qiuhousuanzhang\" disadvantaged child to correct faults. Responsible parents, children will try to take the praise, recognition, incentives such as a positive form of education. Promote appreciation education now. The so-called appreciation education, that is, fully affirmed the children through psychological suggestion constantly fostering children\'s self-esteem and self-confidence, making it not only confidence in the courage to forge ahead, and constant progress of power. According to the relevant statistics show that educators, appreciation education indeed moderate all aspects of some of the original show\'s children become different. Respect for the child to understand, to stretch the minds of children, be willing to accept education, this is the most effective form of education, is also the original meaning of education and very high realms.
For the wrong child, parents should use \"positive stimulation\" method in education. It is said that old educator Jingxiu Sun once saw several children are shaking a small tree, old and not the front sun harangue, after a moment of meditation, he walked past the ear on a small tree, children are seen as strange, curious asked what Sun Lao is doing? Sun and old attitudes a serious, very regretful tone on children said: \"you, small tree in the cry! Lifeblood of shake it faster because you broke! \"Children, shame is flushed, ashamed of his head. Then, old Sun and watered the small Earth up the tree, with the children. Since then, the children not only no longer shake trees, also the nurse tree \"small\" guardian. Old Sun here is to use \"positive stimulation\" approach, children, the children with very rich kid stuff of discourse from the bottom of perceptual awareness for mistakes, errors and correct the error.
Being held at the age of 15 by the Shaoguan Liu, the original home was a very naughty boy, often called by the father, is often the teacher in front of the class in the class gave criticism, satire, and ridicule. Slowly start everywhere and teacher on the dry and soon was criticized by principals in the school, go home again after parents scold, in such a vicious circle, finally becoming criminals. Children will inevitably mistake, parents will beat him only, school teachers are always criticizing him, the child will do? He was not encouraged and supported his negative to the extreme, he felt helpless, will never come again. Of his shame, what the crime, he dares to do anything. Children need to learn, and need of education, parents and teachers to learn how we can educate children. Both cases, may give each responsible for educational responsibility of people to enlightenment. To this end, the parents in their children make mistakes in the process to be severely reprimanded, always criticize, or even cursed, to be persuasive, occasion, combine education with harmony and sense of humor, not to make mistakes in child leave a wound on the soul.
