Since Tada and child contact day, beating his parents to other parents of children of unbelievers. Tin Tin parents greatly provoked fo anger at a time, and ultimately, a severe lesson, but Tada attacks on other children still do not change. Mengmengdongdong child, parents caused a brain.
For children not yet completely reasonable, not reasoning, relying on the reasoning in a way that the child\'s active withdrawal of attack almost impossible. Child psychologists to seek other methods and skills of persuasion to reduce violence against children.
Method one: moderate punishment beating behavior
Parents to reduce the baby is an effective method of attack is punished. Can play his ass, scold him, deprived of his authority or make him feel he had made a mistake. Assumption of reasons for this is that punishment will give him a lesson, make him the next time you do the same before action \"look before you leap\", and this harsh punishment, the better.
But the problem is not so simple. Research proved that severe punishment only temporarily effective, unless the application carefully, will also be up to the opposite effect. Facts have proved that using harsh punishment of parents, rearing children tends to have a particularly strong offensive, like using violent means to solve the problem. Therefore, the use of punishment to moderate, careful to take the scale.
Frustration is caused by an attack of one of the fundamental reasons, so in trying to suppress aggressive behavior in young children, should avoid the use of methods for their frustration. For example, mothers for the children not to bully smaller partner and the punishment threatened him if successful, would make him feel his cognitive \"I want to make children\" and \"mother banned me\" cognition of inconsistent with each other. If he has been severely intimidated, he explained his reasons for not beating is full: \"I can\'t hit the children, if caught, I\'ll be beaten. \"So that he can reduce the uncoordinated. However, if the mother with a more modest but not severely punished, the strength happens to cause the child to stop attacks, then children are threatened for this reason cannot be used to reduce coordination. He must be a reason you are not hitting another looking for excuses. In other words, his external reason (that is, the seriousness of the threat) is very small, so he must be coupled with their own internal reasons. For example, may convince myself that he no longer likes to play smaller partners, not only for his excuse of not hitting right now, but, more importantly, reduces his small partner\'s behavior in the future. He will convince themselves that, for him, beating both unpopular and no fun.
Method two: on good behavior rewarded
When the aggressive behaviors of children ignored him, during the non-aggression in his reward. This approach relies on the assumption that: the child always attacks as a means to attract the attention of others. For them, would rather be punished than being ignored. Punishment for attacks in fact could be interpreted as a reward, \"Hey! See, every time I play little sister, MOM was careful I. I would like to come back again. \"If you ignore any aggressive behavior of the child, and great attention to him, and when he has to do with the attacks instead of actions, such as friendly and children play, give special consideration when toys among others. A few weeks later, child\'s aggressive behavior is significantly reduced.
Method three: training to others the command,
Command, which is the understanding of others emotions, feelings and experiences. Children from other people\'s point of view is the principal method for the training of his command, to others. Such as mother saw and cover for children on the ground floor to catch dragonflies, also with several wings of dragonflies by Dwight d home. Mother is very unhappy about, so the child\'s hands and feet hold down, asked: \"I put you in the network, are not able to move, do you feel well? I put your hands and feet removed, pain in your pain is not? Even if it is a tall grass, like you, there is life, pain, sorry. \"Obviously realized his mistake.
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