Requests and demands on the children\'s psychological response is not the same. Requests can be selected, you can do so, or not to do so; and requirements is a must to do so.
Therefore, when adult children, are requirements, not requests should be made clear, which makes the child feel targeted, there is no room for negotiation. Avoid using selective language, such as \"Lingling, could you hurry up and do your homework? \"This means that both can and cannot be, it seems like parents is very pleasant, is actually a not sure of the requirements, are not conducive to children\'s culture.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to the following several points:
1, when the request for the kids, tone of voice to firmly and resolutely, unambiguous, and the language to be concise, thus the child was no room for bargaining, must do so.
2, with encouraging words to express demands, first clear requirement to do something, then description of what it will bring good results, and finally can express what they feel. For example: \"you have to hurry, do your homework to focus, so that you can go to bed early, guarantee you devote to school tomorrow.\"
3, let your child have the initiative. For example: \"kids, the day before dad washing dishes, mother wash Bowl yesterday, today? \"Children will gladly offered\" today I do the dishes \", its effect is much better than the distribution of tone.
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