Educating children is not a matter by virtue of instinct can do. It needs good concept, means, methods. The thing has not noted, most of the time is critical. We didn\'t notice the son used, tend to affect the behavior of child life.
1, \"this is the last time, last time I warned you! \"-Empty threat scared not clever boy
Never underestimate a boy he is undermining the awareness of the rules. Most children to deny adult authority considerable analysis of the matter: they consider and weigh the possible consequences of conduct in advance.
2, \"I just do not eat! \"Confrontation-how to deal with children
If the parents while the children were provocations cannot have the situation well in hand, they are their own and their families created may last for a lifetime of hurt.
3, I cry, I cry, I cry! -Application \"strengthen laws\" correction of children\'s behavior
When parents correcting children\'s bad behavior, to note two things: first, you\'ll learn to adhere. Second, the use of language to explain your behavior at any time.
From small beginning, stick with children to explain your actions. If this situation persists, you will find that the child would be more reasonable, and listen to reason.
4, \"I don\'t want a shot, I\'m afraid!\" -The opportunity to seize the frustration brought
Plato said: \"the most brutal treatment of a child, than let him \' all your wishes come true. ”
Some parents in most cases underestimated the resilience of children, they think children are too weak, and cannot deal with the realities of life. This attitude formation gradually causes the child\'s own misconceptions that their inability to deal with all.
5, Rockefeller family rules-award is often more effective than punishment
Is, unfortunately, many parents instinctively unwilling to use rewards method, may they award as the \"doting\" or \"bribery\".
\"Reward\" that one of the most successful means of education, was greatly neglected because of a misunderstanding of the concept.
6, \"I want that toy, but the mother does not like. \"-Not dominating strong desire of parents
You should always explain your behavior, why do you want to scold him, or why you want to praise him, is passed to the view of your child, and to ensure that your behavior is in your view of right and wrong.
After a period of training, your child will view of right and wrong of you to bound by their own actions.
7, \"you little, let me help you! \"-The necessary help not hinder a child the wisdom and personality development
Lack of knowledge of parents of child psychological development, does not understand the needs of children, often for \"love child\" or are concerned about children being hurt, and delaying the child perceiving the world, the development of intelligence, time course of self development, missed valuable sensitive period of development.
8, a Marshmallow temptation-while waiting to learn restraint
Passive if the parents meet every requirement of the children, the parents will become the children of slaves, even if the busy four legs facing the sky won\'t let their children get half the meet.
We should try to let the child know: temptation is everywhere and desire at any time, but not to him as the center of the world, therefore, must learn to wait, learn to control their emotions and behavior.
9, the \"toot, mother, Joan and bully me today! \"-Let the children through the defense to win pride
Self defense children both to protect the own body, also protects its own psychology. When stopped by force each other to further injure himself when self-defence could be great on the psychological victory, he would feel: I\'m not a people trampled on, I have my dignity.
10, \"not that I did! \"-To stop children lie several skills
Children as a child, because the sense of not telling a lie, most of them would say was in fact his hoped-for results, gradually grew up, you lied to escape trouble.
For parents, let the children know whether at home or in the outside, lie is in even worse trouble, this is very important.
11, \"don\'t go! Never leave! Take me! \"-Change the attachment of children mental
In order to eliminate the child after the parents leave the sense of insecurity, before temporarily leaving, parents must tell the children that you will come back time and again, and you will when it comes to him.
Parents should always encourage your children, he was able to play is a proud thing alone.
12, \"you don\'t admit you never go home!\" -The punishment when children also let children feel your love
We do need to master the skills, so that when children are severely punished, can still appreciate the loving parents.
13, only \"the door man\"-effective communication, from the Elimination of 10 kinds of communication disorders start
If a child in front of parents trying to open my heart, but often end in disappointment, even after your heart has found will be further harm, children\'s hearts will gradually shut down the gate, until one day, he was no longer to \"care\" you.
14, \"I\'m sorry, because I\'m just a kid! \"-Equal treatment, helps develop the child\'s sense of values and responsibility
We are likely to be used every day in the way of inequality in the treatment of our children, it\'s no wonder that children will not be as considerate as a friend you problems, feeling of respect for you.
15, \"without your help, I can wear! \"-You will protect the children\"
Child \"?Younger children will try to go as far as possible everything, want to \"do his own master.\"
Some space for the growth of the child, and also let him know you want him to grow, and at the right time to protect his \"face\", he would no longer feel fail, and will not be so stubborn.
16, children do not blow your nose-to-do you subconsciously contempt for your child?
Although parents may believe that their children beautiful perfect, although they may be proud of him as, \"ambitious for one\'s children\", but the actual behaviour of the parents has behaved as if he always thought the child was \"silly\" and \"bad\", so need constant lessons and correct.
17, \"kindergarten children laugh at me long with a sow\'s ear\"-treat their children, it may be some humor
Parents in the process of fostering children\'s proper use of humor, not only can ease the tension when there are conflicts between parents and children, more a sense of humor can be gradually passed on to children, face life make it easy for child humor.
18, \"I want to leave this kind of hair! \"-Let the children\" roost \"
For parents, and watching the children made a mistake, causing embarrassment or discomfort, he \"roost\", is really not an easy thing.
However failed to teach him to know, this is the real life: he made a mistake, is his own cause, people shouldn\'t do not take responsibility for the error.
19, \"MOM, do you think of suicide? \"-Tell children the truth
Many adults after the parents that they must have a \"parents\", assertive, there should appear a grasp on everything, there is no disadvantage, no worries, they even forgetting what one is also a normal human, and children are not essentially different.
20, \"why do the leaves are green? \"-Effectively take care of the child\'s thirst for knowledge and curiosity
If a child can not always be a very good question answers, children\'s brain development is impeded by some. Greater resistance, more sources will be loss of wisdom.
21, \"I want to go to the Moon! \"-How to develop your child\'s imagination
When the children according to mythological or legendary story, to play the Knights or heroes, or imitate birds fly, parents not to stop or laugh at them, because that is the child of imagination.
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