Spoiling children grow

The Chinese inscription: children on the road to growth, there is a very gentle trap, who personally mining too parents of children of asylum, child fell into the trap, because they were deprived of opportunities to make mistakes and correct the error, thus also losing the power to grow up.

Case

A key middle school high school girl Ko so-young, high school on the first month, her father ran to school every day, almost impossible to work. It turns out that small before the English high school, MOM and dad to her love and, when the mother looked after her daily living comfort; father of but also not daughter by any aggrieved, as long as the Sub-spoiled daughter, father must \"surrender\". Is a girl, to the school after boarding, he found himself will not dry, proud of her and unwilling to consult students and therefore run into snags everywhere. Even worse is that much-loved at home, parents everywhere modest little English, was not welcomed by the students, she cannot communicate with the students of the effeminate: a full, particularly with the hostel students deal with relationships. Thus, students easily saying \"Oh, no, you can\'t wash lunch boxes didn\'t know? \"Teachers have no intention of saying\" things could not clean up clean up \", in the words of small sounds are mocked Lee. She ran several times a day to a telephone booth, each time you pick up the phone and heard the voice of the father as they burst into tears. Telephone there father heard the cry of the baby daughter of heart, putting down the telephone, drove to the school. All in a day\'s work, the family exhausted. Until the school\'s psychological teachers know about ex post facto, pointed out that Xiao Li this dependency is in fact by the parents, especially when father condoned the results, her parents before suddenly waking up.

Analysis

Overprotective causing today\'s adolescent physiological, psychological functioning degradation, some parents in school trying to their children on the one hand \"pressurized\", and in their daily life as much as possible for them to create a very good condition, this led the kids brains now \"developed\", and limb weakness. In a comfortable environment, some function of the youth in the human body is gradually degraded. Because their life needs are easily met, almost no overcoming difficulties, this can be done, there will be no development. Young people growing up for opportunities to develop their own capacity and thus be deprived.

Today\'s family would be useful in the following example.

Hui Shi and Chuang are good friends of Wei. Day of Wei sent two of his big gourd seeds respectively, they said, \"you to take the seeds to plant in the ground, will bear a great deal of hyacinth. Look, you who both kind of gourd, and at that time I have a reward. ”

Hui Shi and Chuang are pleased to have received, and to plant in the ground.

In order to be kind than of Zhuang Zi\'s greater gourd, Hui Shi very carefully, and fertilization, weed every day. Place of the gourd kind of Zhuangzi in the near, but he never fertilization, weed control, just to see, is no exception, since Koo went to something else.

Soon, Hui Shi gourd seedling tree of a tree to die off, finally, is a survival of a no. Zhuangzi\'s gourd seedling grow exceptionally well, slowly, flowering and fruit, and, as of Wei put it, long gourd is very big.

Hui Shi thought it strange, ran to consult Zhuangzi: \"Sir, why am I so carefully cultivated, all of the seedlings have died, and you will never make management, but looks so good? ”

Zhuangzi answered with a smile: \"you are wrong, in fact, I am also in the heart of management, but with your methods. ”

\"What about what method do you use? ”

\"Law of nature! You didn\'t see me the time to go to the fields around it! I am to see the gourd seedling in field is not happy, if they are all very happy, I certainly will not have to them. And you\'re regardless of their feelings, as hard as fertilizer, which does not die? ”

\"In that case, I let them also? ”

\"Is it is! Your intentions are good, but you don\'t have to natural law, what might get the support of the natural world? ”

It dawned on Hui Shi.