Children saw their parents making love, what should I do?

Maybe your kid, this is not a problem. Many modern people it\'s hard to imagine, once upon a time very few people have the so-called sex, their sexual intercourse is used exclusively for the purpose of breeding the next generation.

Once you have as a parent, \"maybe\" will recognize that previous generation has \"sexual life\", but what kind of situation, still don\'t know. Memory, and there is no bed of ring for; their room had not outgoing Special sounds seem to be any night their doors open for you at any time (in fact, there are exceptions!). Maybe you wanted, is not after your brothers and sisters go to school, her father stole home? or do they have been to two o\'clock in the morning? well, false was that they were on holiday again? once but that was only 34 Ah!

One day, you can\'t help but ask the father, when he had sex with MOM why so quiet? is he fool the eye to eat bread and drink the milk, muttering: \"how to ask this question?\" No longer speak.

Well, maybe they never did love. After all, is a product after the 60 \'s.

Accompanied by nature, is as a sheet of thin wall and floor; as if with some shaking, the whole House will rotate, door doesn\'t work anymore, made you always worry about children caught at any time.

Because of overly worried about the possible consequences of the children saw, that as long as the child at home, an adult cannot make love at ease. In fact, if it should happen, the pressure of parents than children.

Don\'t overreact

Dr Limen·jimo Frank said: \"if we make love, children just rush in, I was overwhelmed, but I do not think that the children were frightened. I spoke to many young people about this thing, they are mostly just smiled. ”

But children if small enough to not know what happened, so at that time the most important thing is to explain to them and do not make them overly surprising. Card, Competition said: \"the children will feel that the mix and some violent elements of sexual intercourse. In many families, children usually rarely see their parents naked, for this purposes, can have some sort of shock. ”

Explicitly tell the children, this is \"love adult\" one way. Let them know that, although it seems dad is injury to the mother, in fact, this is a good feeling. If a child can understand, you can also say to him, this is the inoculation of children. Make love the sound of, might scare the children. Might as well tell him out about will beep, said something that you really like what they do.

Of course you don\'t have to rush to explain so many at once, but in any case, psychologist Dr Jomain proposal: \"If a child seems troubled, you then should his (her) a bit of explanation, he assured. If he fell asleep, you may wish to leave for the next morning. ”

Regardless of how you handle, remember not to appear too shocked or overreact. Dr Patrick Gilmore said: \"children on their parents \' reaction was sensitive to receive impressions and experience has nothing to do with the facts. Any violent reaction will make children more puzzled, a rather contradictory emotions of both. ”

Not to be deprived of their right to privacy

Why fear each time you make love? if prior clear words, believe that the child will respect your privacy, at the same time you can let them know, as long as they need you, ready to knock on your door. Prevention is better than cure. Mali·Li·Ta a surname proposal: \"calmly tell the children: \' this is sth we love each other \' and then close the door. ”

For sake of parents and children, adults should be required to have their own privacy in tranquil living space, but this does not mean that adults had sex in that highly confidential. \"Children know when parents have sex. \"Patrick Gilmore said:\" whenever a home filled with a particularly careful when you create out of the atmosphere, children will know that there are certain things happen. \"If the topic is open, comfortable in the family, and children already understand need at home and know how to respect the privacy of adults, so you have nothing to worry about?

All in all, parents can have a happy sex life and that is something worth celebrating. Perhaps this matter has no direct relationship with the children, but it is part of life, should let children understand.

Spirit of educators and scientists do not believe that child accidentally caught parents are having sex, will cause any harm to their physical and mental. However, as the boy this looks pretty strange move, there may be some ridiculous conclusion, so even if the parents are in the privacy of the very case make love, should still help children understand that is a good thing.

Three problems in children

Children often imitates adult behavior test of their inner thoughts. Small boys often try to imitate father shaves, little girl tries to follow the father stood for a pee.

On the relationship between learning and cognitive, maybe some parents knew. If a child from the parents of training received in the attitude to be \"dirty\" information, it will inevitably affect the development of his mental.

Admittedly, most of the parents when a child is preschool will bother, because they found that children often undress each other, mutual observation of genitals, or \"playing doctor\". To adult standards, this kind of behavior borders on harassment. But we forget that child odds on the interpretation of such acts and adult. Preschool children for themselves, so people are curious. Differences of this kind of observation of each other, but their development \"sex\" understanding natural phenomena.

We advice to parents is: don\'t overreact. Because of \"excessive reaction\" will make the activity a harmless, gradually adding \"sin\" and \"shame\" component. In fact, when the child\'s curiosity is satisfied, they tend to give up that kind of exploration activities.

\"Sexual\" stubbornly interested children may hide the inner meaning of a silent protest. This response can be effective in preventing, for example: seizing the opportunity to leave, inadvertently pointed out that the genitals, say the name of it, and they explain different from boys and girls of reproductive organs.

Many parents believe that the three-year old child cannot understand the differences between the sexes, so do? based study found that at this age, he (or she) has begun to surprise and distress to gender issues. I mean, you dare to tell the children to explain, for example tells the little girl, she has no penis is normal; little boy also should understand that gender difference is has a purpose. Transmission of this information, and basically no porn, it should be, like skin color and hair, eyes, or easier to discuss.

Understanding children\'s psychology

Want to talk to children talk about \"sex\", but hesitated for not opening the biggest reason for this is: parents \' worries and uncertainty – exactly what should be on.

Maybe you didn\'t know, thinking, understanding, and for information on children\'s response capacity different from adults. For example: a child of three to put birth of conceptualization; a four year old child by accident to see parents making love, might think they are fighting. If interpreted this situation: \"father in the mother body sowing a seed\" is not very appropriate, because his mind may therefore appear one-long-mother the body a lurid picture of a plant.

First of all you should know the psychological development of children. In the early 20th century, children are deemed to have several different stages of psychological development. Understand the psychological development of children will help parents understand what the children think, feel, and why you want to do that.

Baby was born from the first day--from parents feel her and hold her way, and tone learning to love to talk to her. Freud believes that this is \"sex\" to start.

Curiosity will make little baby begin to explore their bodies, some infants will \"touch\" of some parts of the body, to meet their own exploration. Study found that even small baby will appear similar to the excited state.

In accordance with Piaget\'s studies, 18-month-old baby, know about cause and effect is slightly. If a toddler when the children touched their genitals is often a slap, so when it came to little when someone next to him, he will stop this behavior (he may have touched his genitals in private, and thus consciously guilty). After the older, the impugned act, may make the children believe that behavior is a bit \"evil\". If so, would be too bad, because it is only available to children for information: this is a where you can be happy, but it is not acceptable behavior.

Between two and three years old children begin to understand this is called \"sex\". Positioning of the formation of male or female at the moment, will indirectly affect their future behavior, interpersonal relationships and sexual response.