Children from dependent to independent and is not easy, after many times of adaptation and not adapted to the contradiction, dependent and independent repeated gradually mature. Jon Gossels acts on children\'s behavior on the basis of long-term research of the Institute, on this process are described. They found that children \"good\" behavior and \"bad\" behavior generally are older growth, with a fairly regular program of alternate and loops which already exists in the l years.
Researchers believe that, at the stage of good psychological balance, children themselves and not feel what is wrong with the world around, followed by a short period, significant imbalances as well as the heart, after temporary imbalances, will become frustrated. Researchers believe the children were born after the first 4 weeks of emotional development is rapid, although the stage is not social smile, however, for comfort and satisfaction can make a positive reflection of suffering and denied, to cry or not satisfied with the song said.
12 weeks of the baby experiences a brief imbalance, his stomach face down on the floor or in bed, he just kicked out to struggling, feeding and sleeping difficult. Cry more, especially at night.
At 16 weeks, sleeping babies fed turned to successfully, to maintain a swimming posture on the floor, not struggling in vain, seeing their loved ones will be issued when laughter and softly for social communication, it is-a balance stage.
20 weeks babies can have serious imbalances. At this time he experienced a number of failures and setbacks, such as prone position wants to indent the body the following leg, he himself sat up and he wanted to reach out and grab something, but he failed, and mother and left him to, he would cry.
24 to 28 weeks babies entered the stage of a balance when babies learned to sit, watch, pay attention, toy changed hands on the ball, meet the psychological needs of his, he can take advantage of the ability to self pleasure, a person play for several minutes. He is friendly to strangers, then behavior is \"self-contained\" and \"friendly\".
At 32 weeks, because the difference between strangers and acquaintances of observation and ability development, significantly increased crying, and a temporary imbalance occurs.
36-40 week, most babies again enter a good balance when babies learned a lot on the ball, imitating \"Welcome\", \"Goodbye\". To understand \"not\", \"no\", because particularly willing to try these capabilities, so reactions more experienced in the exchanges.
At the time of about 44 weeks imbalance in the baby and after a short period, his strangers are often very \"strange\".
At the age of 1, entered a period of new balance, Director of baby become calm, confident and friendly, like to be noticed, he knew the people of praise, like \"get\" and \"to\" of the game, like a hidden-is now also \"elude\" game, in particularly likes it when he climbed to amuse him.
In 15 months Shi, and will lost balance, he may became is does not obedient, this is because he in suddenly between get has many new of ability, he adhere to own to to do many things, but and expression does not clearly, was does not to adult of understanding and support and often temper, however temper came fast, to was also fast, as long as adult is good at boot, comparison easy calm and transfer.
Most of the 18-month child insists on to hate side of development, he likes and adults required to do. As adults to help him in the second when the socks, he first socks may be down. Adult he followed grown-up, he walked in the opposite direction, but adults say \"Goodbye\", before their own interests, and he will follow soon. With the development of communication skills with language and adult children jump on the phenomenon itself.
About 2 years old and entering a balance period. When it comes to 2 and a half, the child may become particularly stubborn and conservative, refused to wear clothes, refused to use the new furniture, also refused to try new foods, he may be on the outside is a lively, enthusiastic and energetic person, but at home is not easy to get along; to 3 years will become frustrated and good cooperation.
Situations described in the above study, can be seen everywhere in life, but each child unbalanced and balanced circulation of alternate months of age and duration are not consistent. Strength of different children\'s reactions are not the same. Some children at the age of 1 or less there is no clear stage performance, such as the author of a neighbor\'s child, in 16 months, suddenly refused to Pocket \"urine does not wet\" bed, refused to wear new clothes, insisted on wearing old clothes, to adult recommendations lost his temper, but he previously, and there is no obvious imbalance. We often encounter, suddenly appears some children and adults to do, said the irony of temper, refused to meet, not willing to wait. But most of the children, and over time will shunliu up. As has a 2 aged 8 months of boy, Qian a stage temper is large, combustion Shi head to ground hit, adults with hand pad in he of head Shang, he to adults of hand pushed, does not agreed he took a pieces articles, he quickly to grabbed another a articles gave to threw in ground, adults called he bath, he is refused to wash, mother education he not with old cripple go, he answer said: \"I is to with old cripple go. \"He played cars can play more than an hour, his father cut in, will play the father, but his children in the nursery is a delightful favorite, perhaps because of people like that have to be bound by their own behavior, so that. He will have some pressure, to return home to vent. And now everything is getting better, head does not hit the floor. Behavior is also easier to meet, father most excited is that in the last day of the evening (2 years 8 months), the father came home from work, little son immediately ran to his grandmother said: \"Grandma, Dad\'s back, give dad to eat. \"When the mother came home, he moved to the bench to get mothers to sit down. Parents son seems to have suddenly grow up mature, this is what a welcome change, of course, many of his behavior there will be repeated.
From the description above can be found in, pressing and often converse
Behave as a balancing stage end and the beginning of a new phase of unbalanced. In good psychological balance stage, children were of behavior and environment to keep a adaptation better of harmonious State, mood happy comfortable, then appears of does not balance, makes individual behavior and environment of harmonious produced r new of does not adaptation, emotional easy excited, its real is children in growth process in the of psychological need and ability skills Zhijian produced contradictions by caused of setbacks and troubles, is never mature to mature of process in the by inevitable will produced of. Of course, some external manifestation of radical, some children may have and sulked. This temperament characteristic of children-related.Children after the age of 3, various cycles of conflict and resolution of conflicts will continue, at every stage of conflict resolution is good, growth will be relatively smooth.
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