And disadvantages of the old man with children

Currently, more and more of Grandma, Grandpa, Grandma, Sir, put into custody in the ranks of the grandchildren. Whether in the community in the courtyard, or in the kindergarten door of the former, you can see many elderly people in the custody or transfer of their grandchildren. In the class I taught has half of the children of elderly transfer.

Help for the elderly and children with children has three major advantages: first, has rich experience of life and parental experience for the elderly, especially loves to Sun generation, caring. Relatively ample time after retirement for the elderly, child care more patient, more touch, sense of responsibility more, love for children. Second, young parents are busy, the child care problem is their broken heart, there is a help for the elderly, can alleviate the worries of young parents, so that they more fully committed to work third, good for the elderly. Old people fear most lonely, their grandchildren around the feet of an elderly person, for the elderly is maximum comfort and happiness in life in his old age. At the same time can be obtained from the child\'s growth vitality, also belonging to, providing opportunities for active ageing. This family relationships with the grandchildren play games to help maintain a healthy state of mind benefit for the elderly.
Old man takes children although there is some merit, but because of the old values, lifestyle, education, and modern society will be more or less a difference. In addition, naturally with the elderly on the old man\'s physiological and psychological characteristics. Therefore, the old man with children there are also certain drawbacks.
, Excessive love lead to spoil.
The elderly are often especially loves children, and vulnerable to no principle of accommodation, and doting. And also the elderly mental some scruples would – if it goes wrong, fear of children blame. Director of the elderly in accordance with the child, unreasonable desire to kids no principle of a regular meeting. A long time, children will feel that they are the family of \"dominate\"--everyone was listening to one\'s own, slightly unhappy it will cry. Elderly fear children cry bad body and various coax. In this way, children will find by crying, temper will achieve your goal, so children will be threatened by lost his temper and bitter parents, to meet their own non-requirements. Therefore, excessive indulgence and compromise easy for children \"egocentric\" consciousness, form a selfish, willful and other undesirable personality.
Qi Qi of the children in my class, like a sheep in the kindergarten, and has never had children, what things are not done, sleeping is not find bed, get up and do not wear clothes, lace sth, for his performance in the Park, we conduct home visits, the original Qi Qi at home, my grandmother used to do everything for him. Get up, to help him wearing clothes, lace. A meal, give him a piece of feeding of sth, self-care ability is poor. However, Super temper, unhappy wept a little nasty, throwing toy book, grandma was coaxed and advise. According to Grandma said, when I eat the same way, who do what they wish to eat won\'t allow a taste, their favorite toys or other children play, said the elderly really took him no way.
Mr Chen heqin\'s once said, \"what children can do it, let him go by himself\" so as to fostering children\'s ability of independence, and responsibility. Someone doing research on one or two grade of primary school students, nursery, kindergarten children and youzu children of parents, making mental comparisons found them very different. Groups of primary school students from kindergarten up strong sense, adaptability, social circle, many hands to do many things, guts, and able to endure hardship, as General wrestling and scratches like nothing. Very little will be able to cross the road. Not brought up children and the elderly, school also transfers to the elderly, do not want to do, like bags, don\'t want to do. Encounter problems, slightly unhappy, crying, the spoiled, lack of ability, not gregarious. Just like Lu Xun by the Shanghai children\'s book: \"term of domineering, regardless, swearing, beating AP course, is in front of the door or storm Lord, is a fighter, but outside, half will lose the network spider, without immediately\". Therefore, the ancestors of the mollycoddle, delaying the development of children independent of consciousness and independent behavior.
Second, the ancestors of education is not suitable for the development of the times
Rapid development in society today, the ancestors of some of the ideas and concepts are relatively old, and realistic standards there is a gap, is not easy to accept new things, often fail to keep pace with social development and the concept soon.
When the children were caught up in \"breaking\" a toy car on ten ancestors will be approached to stop or criticism. In their view, a good toy car can not be \"breaking\", and this behavior as is a child\'s bad behavior. In fact, this is the children explore the innovation performance of transaction characteristics.
Some ancestors of people affected by the generally low level of education, knowledge is narrow, accepted and education for decades, but have ancestors who brought children, it is easy to feel that they are \"hands\", \"eat more salt than younger adults to eat rice.\" Therefore, tend to replace science with experience.
Once overheard this one thing: a very pretty girl, but he was full of black spots on teeth. Girl mothers complain of her mother with her child became such. It turns out that when sleeping every night, Grandma give children to drink sugar water, more children drink more love to drink, in the long run, is covered with black spots on teeth. And the child\'s grandmother said, \"don\'t trust a book saying, child deciduous teeth because it is off, long do net net new is not the same as white? Furthermore, I hours without eating some sweets, the teeth do not fall out? \"Who do not know, have a direct impact on the development of permanent teeth in deciduous teeth.
Third, easily lead to parent-child relationship between alienated
Loving grandchildren for the elderly and parents love their children, have similarities, there are differences. Are all out of love for the children of the same Department. Different is that different forms of love, parents love their children to \"strict\", the old man loves his grandson are somewhat \"Tsu\" \"width\" and \"capacity\". Even my parents \' discipline, ancestors are unwarrantable shield and stand. Ancestors of intervention, to prevent parents from exercising their right to education of children, which is bound to lead to contradictions between the elderly and parents, so as to stand off.

In young children, in their view, who did not hit his scolding him, who according to him, it is good to him. But parents demanded of him, unreasonable demands not be met. They would take it that the parents for him is not good, does not love him, to parental conflict, and lead to children and parent child relationships between estranged.
Master\'s master of the children in my class, his willful, so Grandma every day to pick up, otherwise it will not go away. On one occasion, Grandma is ill, mother to pick her up, said nothing. Finally, are let grandmother came from. Master master\'s mother said, \"are so used to his grandmother, regret was he by his grandmother. ”
One of my colleagues are also followed the grandmother since childhood. Now she\'s talking to is that Grandma good, have any word you say to Grandma. She knows her parents is also very good, but she always felt and parents emotionally a little gap.
Four, grandparents often enclosed in a small environment grandchildren
Childhood is precisely the children strong intellectual curiosity, critical period of plenty of physical and mental activity, which require intellectual stimulation and activities that give them reasonable force. If enclosed in a small environment where children, children often develop within, not athletic habits and lifestyle.
Physiological decline in the elderly, a cripple, static and lazy, total circles in a circle, child, children easily old enough lively enough. Impeded the development of child intelligence.
Minmin is an example of my neighbor, MOM and dad go to work no time to take care of the child, had to let her grandparents. Grandpa is a secondary school teacher, teaching children mathematics, computational problem, literacy at home every day. Grandfather is proud to say: \"sensitive-sensitive a grade also must be a\" top \". But less attention to children\'s development, and exchanges with the children, and so on. Until the child enters kindergarten, problems arose, children can\'t up the stairs, not slide, not running, not with children sth, which has plagued minmin parents.
In short, old man with children has its pros and cons, handled properly, will do more harm than good. Therefore, the old man takes children on this matter, must grasp well its role, clearly they are supporting, the protagonist is the child\'s parents. Can\'t we exaggerate, belly-worship. Meanwhile, the elderly should strengthen their own learning, with the times, renewal of raising offspring of concept, education children with scientific knowledge.
For a common aspiration, and that is educate children. Old people should play to their strengths, overcome their disadvantages, let the children grow up better.

Optimistic parents nurture health children

Parents occupy an important position in the family, they had a big impact on child development. Mental health status of parents \' influence has been confirmed by some study at home and abroad, but the parents in their child\'s different influence, is large or small, there is controversy on the issue.

In our country, fathers tend to be the head, bear the heavy responsibility of a family, protection of the family and my mother is a loving, homemakers, child-rearing, maintain the normal operation of the role of the family.
Due to differences in this role, parents are the \"tacit agreement\" to raise children Division of tasks done: father and children games teach children to learn, help the child deal with the outside world; yinshiqiju mothers are mainly responsible for children, taking care of daily life.

Through communication with the father, children learn to more responsibilities, obligations; and during the life of the mother, children will learn how to care and considerate to others. A positive and healthy father inside for social adaptation of children have an important role, and a mother for the child a sense of optimism, love building a role not to be ignored. Social maladjustment children easily degenerate, vulnerable; insecure children who lack trust, emotional indifference.

Parents \' behavior has a direct role model for children. One work pressure, depressed, often angry father at home, his children whether male or female would produce anxiety and depressed mood. Boys also are gradually learning to father\'s behavior, becoming his within one\'s own behavior. In the face of similar pressure will come in the same way. Girl you observed that the performance of the mother, learned more panic and depression.

Mental health status of parents \' influence was enormous, parents need to recognize their special role in the process of raising children, and always maintain the initiative, Yang Li chubi.

In our country, fathers tend to be the head, bear the heavy responsibility of a family, protection of the family and my mother is a loving, homemakers, child-rearing, maintain the normal operation of the role of the family.
Due to differences in this role, parents are the \"tacit agreement\" to raise children Division of tasks done: father and children games teach children to learn, help the child deal with the outside world; yinshiqiju mothers are mainly responsible for children, taking care of daily life.

Through communication with the father, children learn to more responsibilities, obligations; and during the life of the mother, children will learn how to care and considerate to others. A positive and healthy father inside for social adaptation of children have an important role, and a mother for the child a sense of optimism, love building a role not to be ignored. Social maladjustment children easily degenerate, vulnerable; insecure children who lack trust, emotional indifference.

Parents \' behavior has a direct role model for children. One work pressure, depressed, often angry father at home, his children whether male or female would produce anxiety and depressed mood. Boys also are gradually learning to father\'s behavior, becoming his within one\'s own behavior. In the face of similar pressure will come in the same way. Girl you observed that the performance of the mother, learned more panic and depression.

Mental health status of parents \' influence was enormous, parents need to recognize their special role in the process of raising children, and always maintain the initiative, Yang Li chubi.

Baby fell down and was knocked over, Lai who?

Often, little guy fell down was knocked over, Grandma playing the \"culprit\"---such as floors, tables, chairs or something.
These General Lai \"culprit\" post, baby dry your tears soon-----even if she was still in pain.
Now, the little guy threw a pain, not as before, was up at once, but crying edges pointing to the \"culprit\", insisted we played two under your tears.

I never think, Lai \"floor\", Lai \"table\" these are big, just transfer your child\'s attention, it should be no big deal, until one day, I saw this-----

Japan is attention children of anti-setbacks education, children walk fell Shi, parents never to supporting he up, and China of children fell a gendou, touch breaking points skin good as on very, parents quickly to children supporting up, also to on does not talk of door Ridge, ground made a meal fire, gave to beat several Xia, to this to coax children, results led children grew up Hou, a is committed has errors often shift the blame on others, second is withstood can\'t failed of setbacks, produced of psychological problem also comparison more.

So, I began to feel dizzy, so, so serious??

Children love to make faces is what

A couple with just over ten years old son attend called total control of the children smile, sometimes tempted to shrug the shoulders on the side of, sometimes repeated a wry mouth, mouth also issued from time to time, \"Oh Oh\" sound strange. Parents with children in local hospitals, diagnosed as \"seizures\", taking over several antiepileptic drugs have no effect.
To this end parents anxious, not knowing what children \"evil\"! Asked in detail about history and spiritual examination, are children of the original child TIC disorder, rather than epilepsy.

TIC disorders in children refers to any part of the body of a group or a group of muscles is not independent, repeated, rapid movement occurred and twitch, and accompanied by symptoms of attention is not focused, hyperactivity and other behavior, occurs in childhood. In children with TIC disorder is often experienced as not restrained, but usually you can hold back for a moment or period of time. TIC disorder seen in boys, often have family history of TIC. Children with tic disorders are often accompanied by mood disorders, temper is very big. Clinical performance to blink, extrusion brow, Lu teeth, wrinkle the nose, head, shoulders or sucking, repeated coughing, throat clearance, chew, also sometimes expressed as yawning, fist, and swing arms, children often feel very painful, bigger children will feel in front of peers is inferior.

Currently on the causes of tic disorders in children there is no conclusion yet, but on the whole good prognosis. On the treatment of the first to care for children, not to those people, accusing or threatening, let the children stay pleasant, relaxed state, often with children out of activity and prevent child tension, fatigue or psychological burden of overweight children. Symptoms in children with heavy, oral low-dose with Ding alcohol or risperidone in the treatment.

Parenting: change he might as well change your mind

Psychological problems of children keep mothers are the most confusing behavior problems in psychological problems directly.

The saying goes well: \"1 year old is Angel, 2 3 dogs are too. \"As our children grew, his mind became more complex, more personal consciousness in behavior, this time, you will find, in the face of him you seem bewildering, childcare has become irritability sth

So Jiang and I really want to crash

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Nearly two hours of sleep time every day, my son to bed forever thinking somehow, yells thirsty, can bed 10 times just drink and then to bed. Then is also a link \"toss of creativity\", and \"specified\" I can\'t walk away. Accompanied him two hours of sleep every night, for me it is suffering, does not know how his energy is so good, does not seem to need a rest.

He Jiang, Jiang also. Usually ask him why, he was partial and you do. Cool has a fever, he wore shoes, doesn\'t listen, walked barefoot on the marble sth And he also filled with numerous \"no\".

Most irritating is that children do not eat soft and hard, good words are not heard, deceive or cheat not, afraid, break and he screams as a weapon. So Jiang I really was going to crash!

Answer: Wang Wenge (Shanghai primary and middle school experimental study on the Research Assistant)

Not to mention the age of 3, 4, children of all ages are energetic are we expect, have the energy to be trial and error learning.

Causes the child more reason for not willing to go to bed before going to bed, I guess a few below, did you see on the corresponding:

1, parents work during the day, go out in the morning and return in the evening every day. In this case: the child tried to play with parents, he believes that parents are the best at home; sleep that signalled a break up, reluctant to sleep; parents no effort (not the child have the energy), at the bottom of one\'s soul is not willing to take the child, wish he whipped quiet like a doll.

2, one of the parents, or all with children at home. Children slept during the day or night; educational content arbitrary, there is no fixed rule, especially before going to bed; parents slept late.

3, at home or not has nothing to do with my parents. No separate bed sleeping unilateral denial of child without active intervention children; always want others to manage child at this time and I was reading a book, television or sleeping.

Regardless of that situation, necessary changes in both the parent-child.

First child, day of physical activity to rich, fatigue will go to bed early. If the schedule is not fixed, should be adjusted accordingly. Adults before bedtime, children must not be allowed to rest, so as to avoid energy when going to bed, bed sleeping is very effective. Not doing exciting activities before going to bed.

Followed by adults. Highlight their education function and their children to educate the most assured, always thinking how to educate children, conceived content, rather than the leadership of the institutions, as none of the children do, you know that picky; adjusting psychology, like their children, giving positive support; rest rule you want to synchronize and children; education activities should be fixed before going to bed, to read, stories as well.

Effect of psychological and behavioral factors in children

[Environment]
(A) the family environment

1. Socio-economic conditions generally, family socio-economic status of good family, language, adaptive capacity and the development of intelligence in children are better than the socio-economic situation of poor families. In the latter, exposed the tensions in the family is more than the former; in addition, in this family, psychological and social intercourse less opportunity, children, like adults, anxiety and depression. If parents and lower level, poor parenting skills, more behavior problems in children.

2. Parents of parents unhappy childhood. Parents \' marital status, health status, psychological pressure of mothers during pregnancy and childbirth, and so on, can affect children\'s behavior and development, a survey found that children with behavior problems, more pathological phenomena in there were before pregnancy, pregnancy and abnormal deliveries, and other factors. Parent\'s personality, intelligence and level of education has an impact on behavioral development of children.

3. Parents to children attitudes of parents for the children of excessive indulgence, worry and overprotective, preferences, discrimination, and unrealistic expectations are too much for the child to children the right effect.

4. Example role of parents is the child of parents of the first admirers, children often mimics parents whatever parent behavior inevitably affected his children. Family atmosphere, separation, quarrel, and so has a profound impact on children, children easily interrupted by parents of public dispute, especially when this quarrel and have the time. Other people on matter such as drinking, smoking, attitudes have all have a psychological effect on children.

5. Conflict parents and children of each normal family has contradictions, but if the conflict is too large will cause concerns parents and children the sense of insecurity. At home cause many contradictory reasons, annoying performance in children, housework, TV shows, clothing, friends, learning ... One of the most basic problem is that no mutual understanding between parents and children. When a conflict occurs, parents blame, punishment will only make more contradictions from intensifying, and even acts of hostility. Parents need to understand that the child\'s character partly genetic, part of the parental rearing patterns. Children misbehave, temper, parents should control their feelings, so as to avoid conflict deteriorated.

6. Family breakdown because of the impact of parental divorce on children are enormous. Many behavior issues that often arise. Factors associated with children: causes of divorce, with the following party (the father or the mother), the new birth of compatriots, socio-economic pressures, the parent (or parents) emotion, divorced both sides continued opposition abuses.

(B) collective environment of nurseries, kindergartens, schools, families, teachers that parents, associates the brother and sister. Appropriate educational content, proper methods of education, directly affects children\'s physical and mental development. In a harmonious, friendship, solidarity, happiness, and positive life in an environment of learning, allows the development of the child\'s emotional behavior are well.

(C) children\'s own physiological environment

1. Disability and chronic somatic diseases that have a great impact on children\'s behavior. In these disorders, some may produce discomfort, pain in children, some affect or limit a child\'s daily activities and social interaction, some of the fear and anxiety in children, while others make the feeling of shame, isolation and distress in children, low self-esteem and confused. All these changes can often change the parents, teacher attitudes toward child behavior and partners, which in turn will lead to changes in the child\'s own behavior. Negative impact of diseases on children\'s emotional, behavioural, mainly for depression. More boys with social withdrawal as girls to more aggressive behavior.

2. Maturity maturity and intelligence development of the nervous system is the most important factor of infantile behavior development. Mature and intelligent about the nervous system, in a certain age should have the appropriate level of intellectual development in children. For intellectual development, whichever, if expectations are too high, you will often have a sense of frustration and insecurity; relatively high intelligence often have a tired feeling, not serious class, on school do not complete the job.

3. Temperament of the child (see below).

4. Biochemical and endocrine factors to influence people\'s emotional behavior change behavior has biochemical basis, one of the most important neurotransmitters (such as monoamine 5 of serotonin, norepinephrine, dopamine, and so on) and endocrine. Lot of attention to defects and children with ADHD can be by blocking the enzyme monoamine oxidase enhance monoamine levels to improve symptoms, Tricyclic Antidepressant also treatment for ADHD. In patients with anxiety disorder, increased plasma corticosteroid content and feedback to biogenic Amine (norepinephrine and 5-hydroxytryptamine) updates rate accelerated, especially 5 function of serotonin activity sung with anxiety disorders may occur about. Now think, anorexia nervosa may be related to the diencephalon-

Neuroendocrine control disorders.

In addition, the endorphin effect on mood and behavior also has attracted the attention of scholars. Current information on, endorphin effect on psychomotor function of biogenic amines in brain and are closely related, and by effect of anterior pituitary hormone secretion of dopamine. But on the whole, internal casomorphin research does not go far enough.

[Parenting]

On the upbringing of children, traditionally divided into \"authority\" and by \"adaptation\" by two, the former mainly too many instructions, commands, threats, retribution, and, which use request tone sought the views of the child, situation was changed to the children to explain why, under the permission of respect for the views of the child. \"Authority\" method may cause children\'s temper, not obey discipline, hatred against peers and do whatever they want, stubborn, such as lack of confidence; \"conform to\" rule over less.

\"Authority\" sex education methods, regardless of which party is the parent, Department will result in their relations with negative confrontation between children, thus affecting the normal development of children. But it was also found that \"conform to\" sex education methods to increase children\'s aggressive behavior, based on, the use of \"adaptation\" by the aggressive behaviors of children in the West than the use of \"authority\" by children in the East. Therefore, it was suggested that there is no a method of education is perfect, both appropriate and may be better.

When the education of the child, must proceed from the actual level of children. Requirements over the level of development of the child or when the child\'s level of development is to allow learning certain skills not taught parents miss the chance, this is not appropriate.

In the one-child upbringing, prone to spoiling, but parents often do not recognize this. Spoil the best evidence is that when parents stopped the child to do things, children often threatening parents by crying, temper, and other means.

High-end education lost personality cultivation

Beijing University Professor, doctoral supervisor, Qian Liqun belt when the final sessions of graduate students, some changes that he felt well. \"Previous tutors and students are as common spiritual pursuits come together. Now, more utilitarian colors in such a relationship. \"Qian Liqun said.

Qian Liqun believes that \"this is a problem with the purpose of education. \"He said, the past form of education, in addition to imparting knowledge, there is spiritual edification of the culture and personality. Before, he always say to students: you come to me, in addition to learning learning methods, but also learning to a spiritual realm. Now, into a simple transfer of knowledge between teachers and students relationship, neglected to spiritual education. \"Traditional emphasis on spirituality in education, education is now should learn from. \"Qian Liqun said. \"Doctor, graduate education, personality development is quite lacking. \"Ten scientific session of the national people\'s Congress, the central China Normal University education professor, doctoral supervisor, Zhou Hongyu believes that this actually reflects a misunderstanding of the current education: on learning achievement such visible things too much importance to, and on the psychological state of invisible things enough concern.

Qian Liqun memories, very intimate relationship between tutor and student in his early years. Form of education is a chat-style education at that time, teachers and students open space on sea days, on all aspects of life. \"At that time, students and teachers exchanges, on a certain degree, most of the students to tutor a psychological dependence. What students in mind, teachers generally know everything. \"He said, now, so understand may be difficult to achieve.

In fact, changed not only the relationship between mentor and student. \"In the past, exchanges between students there are many, many people claim to menshi brothers. \"Qian Liqun said, now, such exchanges have significantly reduced. \"To the doctor\'s age, students look very mature, independent general appearance. However, students often have the desire to be heard, at a critical time, if it is to care about him, even to be a caring eye of may will be able to save him. \"Qian Liqun said. He also recalled that has also PhD students commit suicide before, mostly because the \"critical moment\" lack of care.

Qian Liqun, traditional College of education, has been undermined. Students are rarely in the past, every year one or two, but now, many graduate students may even see the tutorial are difficult. \"Maybe students names, instructors may not necessarily know? \"\" Mentor students with too much. \"Zhou Hongyu contact mentor, a person with a lot of people over more than 20 graduate students.

Zhou Hongyu yourself contacted tutorial for example, some professors are busy doing their own thing-companies, projects, etc, on students \' lack of concern. \"I started with graduate students, most of them have been in the community through training, so strong some; but today many postgraduate experience much more simple, psychology is much more vulnerable. \"Qian Liqun said.

Qian Liqun, lost their tutors, the students concerned and exchanges with them, many graduate students likely to be completely isolated. With the doctor\'s own experience and different, heart is not strong enough, led to tragedies only occur.

While the children were frustrated was irritable

Each child will often suffer setbacks in their daily lives. Take their environment. In their eyes, is a very confusing parts of the world. No matter how hard they try, but on the level of their development, they cannot figure out why most things will happen, what next and how to solve the problem. At the same time, they still is germinating the idea of independence, so as to encourage their adventures from the parents to give their security and their control. When young\'s experiment to try their abilities when the parents are alarmed about their this spirit of exploration. However, children do not really know their limit, so he tried to get things tend to be his libunengji. He wants to do certain things, but lack of movement necessary to the success of control and rational understanding. In addition. When he needs cannot be met when he can\'t stand. When when he wants something, he\'d like to have, because in his way of thinking, and vote \"after\" of the concept.
So, 2 is why the children were frequently lost his temper, his fate is always lightning to overthrow their desire for things not to, their aspirations and ambitions, always work in practice. Therefore, he felt overwhelmed. In short, his life is a frequent setbacks experienced. Of course, is excited when his success.
In addition to frustration, child care or lack of language skills to achieve their own ends and calm his disappointment. In our life, language plays a very important role in coping with setbacks. Therefore it is not difficult to understand, why was the child lost his temper and his expression of limited ability. Young children can understand than his actual use of words. He might have solve the dilemma of opinion, but was not in communication with others when expressed in language very well. Therefore, his emotions will be more and more excited, his frustration is growing.
Finally, children still lack the ability to control emotions. We grow up mature later learned how to suppress their emotions and avoid emotional, but children do not have these skills. When he humbled a strong feeling to the height, when you need to vent, he will certainly be looking for a chance to vent. But his method of venting is very limited. He cannot find anyone complaining, nor holding back in their hearts do not say, do? it will have to temper. He will suddenly lying on the ground, sharp howl, punched and kicked, hit his head. At this time, he was like a volcano, to want to calm down, have to be a first blast off is not available at the top of their own.
Therefore, we can think, anger is a natural phenomenon in the development of children. Some children to send a small temper occasionally, but others are often hit. There is no doubt that a child\'s character also plays an important role. The emotion is very strong children to temper is fierce. Difficult to adapt to the different experiences of the child\'s ability to endure setbacks may also be low.　　 Attention is not easy to concentrate on children often can turn our attention to other matters and avoid provocation. General causes of the above are caused by the child lost his temper. Of course, if a child for some reason are suppressed, then he is likely to be frequently lost his temper. In these cases, in addition to lose his temper, often there are other clues (sleep problems, not happy) will tell you where the problem. Finally, there are diseases of children will often throw a tantrum. If a child lost his temper when too much (for example, more than three times a day), or a temper for too long (more than 15 minutes), or temper of age is over, children have been able to seamlessly use of language to express their ideas (the age of four) when he was still often angry, you should consider these possibilities.
　　

You follow the sound of screams of \"language\"?

8-year old little girl Wai Chan broke his father\'s brain. Both asked her to wear clothes, wash your face is to eat and go to school, she will be conditioned as vehemently against adults will. A small thing can greatly touched her, crying, crying, swearing and wrestling thing is staged scenes at home every day, at least two or three times a day. Father attempts to discipline, Wai Chan emotion more intense, once even flushed to cry while outflow had bleeding, father does not know how to do anymore. In school, Wai Chan is also a State teacher always reflect that she is not ready to speak, do not like to answer the question. As long as the out of school, Wai Chan become unscrupulous, shouted for children also, unable to get along with. Father does not understand that a child as a child, so cute, how suddenly like that?
Whether the child screams \"says\" what? To sum up, several of the following conditions:

1, children born temperament types. Some children are active like cry some more. Poor child behavior control, sometimes called called, want to touch anything you touch something, scream of this kind are not independent, meaningless.

2, there are also some child brain development in itself a problem. Part of the brain responsible for emotion, like some child\'s temperament, others do not. But it\'s hard to check out. Attention parents should promptly consult a doctor.

3, the normal case is expression of children screaming is a cause of emotions, such as excitement, dissatisfaction. But it screams should not too frequently.

4, also caused some children to parents concerned about noise, because many parents too busy, no time to take care of the children, concern children want their parents, parents should take time with accompanying children. Lack of communication, children easily cry.

5, cry of the children may also be because pressure, likely parents themselves stress affects children or parents for children may be too high. This case depressing not to let children out there not, sometimes shouting is necessary decompression, but always so parents will be asked a why.

6, also some children\'s scream was caused by some bad habits and mental. Wang Linghua doctors talk about the case: only five years old, but very smart, good at observe. At home she is normal, only going out to the public when she knows she\'s loud behavior aroused the concern of many people, can let parents embarrassed, she can take the opportunity to require parents meet the requirements. Over time, every time out the door, Jia Jia will be shouted and raised unreasonable demands at a time.

Wang Linghua pointed out that, if a child regardless of occasion, slightly screamed, parents should pay attention as soon as possible. Especially children cried often accompanied by other problems, such as the angry, aggressive behavior, mood disorder (fear, anxiety, forcing). Guangdong Provincial Institute of mental health chief physician Yu Ruili also reminded parents that if a child cry along with the bad sleep, attention is not focused, appear of other symptoms such as hyperactivity, these children may have psychological or emotional problems. Serious emotional disturbance in children growing up develop into psychiatric problems, such as depression or anxiety. Parents in early child should pay attention to conditioning a child\'s emotional, avoid children throw a tantrum. Children with ADHD and autism in children are easier to cry.

Children scream may also be because the language barrier, so only use shouted to express. Experts remind parents to carefully observe children called out of reason on the one hand, on the one hand, induced by parents to children with language expression.

Emotional and behavioral development cycle

Children from dependent to independent and is not easy, after many times of adaptation and not adapted to the contradiction, dependent and independent repeated gradually mature. Jon Gossels acts on children\'s behavior on the basis of long-term research of the Institute, on this process are described. They found that children \"good\" behavior and \"bad\" behavior generally are older growth, with a fairly regular program of alternate and loops which already exists in the l years.

Researchers believe that, at the stage of good psychological balance, children themselves and not feel what is wrong with the world around, followed by a short period, significant imbalances as well as the heart, after temporary imbalances, will become frustrated. Researchers believe the children were born after the first 4 weeks of emotional development is rapid, although the stage is not social smile, however, for comfort and satisfaction can make a positive reflection of suffering and denied, to cry or not satisfied with the song said.

12 weeks of the baby experiences a brief imbalance, his stomach face down on the floor or in bed, he just kicked out to struggling, feeding and sleeping difficult. Cry more, especially at night.

At 16 weeks, sleeping babies fed turned to successfully, to maintain a swimming posture on the floor, not struggling in vain, seeing their loved ones will be issued when laughter and softly for social communication, it is-a balance stage.

20 weeks babies can have serious imbalances. At this time he experienced a number of failures and setbacks, such as prone position wants to indent the body the following leg, he himself sat up and he wanted to reach out and grab something, but he failed, and mother and left him to, he would cry.

24 to 28 weeks babies entered the stage of a balance when babies learned to sit, watch, pay attention, toy changed hands on the ball, meet the psychological needs of his, he can take advantage of the ability to self pleasure, a person play for several minutes. He is friendly to strangers, then behavior is \"self-contained\" and \"friendly\".

At 32 weeks, because the difference between strangers and acquaintances of observation and ability development, significantly increased crying, and a temporary imbalance occurs.

36-40 week, most babies again enter a good balance when babies learned a lot on the ball, imitating \"Welcome\", \"Goodbye\". To understand \"not\", \"no\", because particularly willing to try these capabilities, so reactions more experienced in the exchanges.

At the time of about 44 weeks imbalance in the baby and after a short period, his strangers are often very \"strange\".

At the age of 1, entered a period of new balance, Director of baby become calm, confident and friendly, like to be noticed, he knew the people of praise, like \"get\" and \"to\" of the game, like a hidden-is now also \"elude\" game, in particularly likes it when he climbed to amuse him.

In 15 months Shi, and will lost balance, he may became is does not obedient, this is because he in suddenly between get has many new of ability, he adhere to own to to do many things, but and expression does not clearly, was does not to adult of understanding and support and often temper, however temper came fast, to was also fast, as long as adult is good at boot, comparison easy calm and transfer.

Most of the 18-month child insists on to hate side of development, he likes and adults required to do. As adults to help him in the second when the socks, he first socks may be down. Adult he followed grown-up, he walked in the opposite direction, but adults say \"Goodbye\", before their own interests, and he will follow soon. With the development of communication skills with language and adult children jump on the phenomenon itself.

About 2 years old and entering a balance period. When it comes to 2 and a half, the child may become particularly stubborn and conservative, refused to wear clothes, refused to use the new furniture, also refused to try new foods, he may be on the outside is a lively, enthusiastic and energetic person, but at home is not easy to get along; to 3 years will become frustrated and good cooperation.

Situations described in the above study, can be seen everywhere in life, but each child unbalanced and balanced circulation of alternate months of age and duration are not consistent. Strength of different children\'s reactions are not the same. Some children at the age of 1 or less there is no clear stage performance, such as the author of a neighbor\'s child, in 16 months, suddenly refused to Pocket \"urine does not wet\" bed, refused to wear new clothes, insisted on wearing old clothes, to adult recommendations lost his temper, but he previously, and there is no obvious imbalance. We often encounter, suddenly appears some children and adults to do, said the irony of temper, refused to meet, not willing to wait. But most of the children, and over time will shunliu up. As has a 2 aged 8 months of boy, Qian a stage temper is large, combustion Shi head to ground hit, adults with hand pad in he of head Shang, he to adults of hand pushed, does not agreed he took a pieces articles, he quickly to grabbed another a articles gave to threw in ground, adults called he bath, he is refused to wash, mother education he not with old cripple go, he answer said: \"I is to with old cripple go. \"He played cars can play more than an hour, his father cut in, will play the father, but his children in the nursery is a delightful favorite, perhaps because of people like that have to be bound by their own behavior, so that. He will have some pressure, to return home to vent. And now everything is getting better, head does not hit the floor. Behavior is also easier to meet, father most excited is that in the last day of the evening (2 years 8 months), the father came home from work, little son immediately ran to his grandmother said: \"Grandma, Dad\'s back, give dad to eat. \"When the mother came home, he moved to the bench to get mothers to sit down. Parents son seems to have suddenly grow up mature, this is what a welcome change, of course, many of his behavior there will be repeated.

From the description above can be found in, pressing and often converse

Behave as a balancing stage end and the beginning of a new phase of unbalanced. In good psychological balance stage, children were of behavior and environment to keep a adaptation better of harmonious State, mood happy comfortable, then appears of does not balance, makes individual behavior and environment of harmonious produced r new of does not adaptation, emotional easy excited, its real is children in growth process in the of psychological need and ability skills Zhijian produced contradictions by caused of setbacks and troubles, is never mature to mature of process in the by inevitable will produced of. Of course, some external manifestation of radical, some children may have and sulked. This temperament characteristic of children-related.

Children after the age of 3, various cycles of conflict and resolution of conflicts will continue, at every stage of conflict resolution is good, growth will be relatively smooth.

Help children develop positive self image

A good self-image of children often feel that they are welcome, and confident, can actively overcome difficulties and bold work. Poor self-image of children often feel is not satisfactory, inferiority, and timid and afraid of doing something wrong. Self image, once formed, it is difficult to change. From small help children develop positive self image, the children will be lifelong. How to help?

1, creating opportunities for self-expression, independent children to do, such as washing the handkerchief, button button, finishing things such as toys, hand; House of friends visit, children may be encouraged for the guests to draw a picture or sing a song. Children succeeded in doing one thing at a time, performing a show, painted a picture and so on, will experience that successfully bring joy and confidence.

2, a very positive child. Adults identifying child\'s strengths, strengths, give timely recognition can also properly in front of public recognition. Such children will feel they have many advantages, is that we all like children.

3, capture child a good start, and told him. Child independently learn to lace up for the first time, after falling for the first time herself did not cry, first active toys to the neighbors children playing, particularly carefully observed in adults, and praised in a timely manner. For those who feel poor self image of children, adults have to concern them bit by bit of progress, and encouraged in a timely manner, this will make your child feel self-image is a little better.

Level 4, understanding child mental and physical development, correct evaluation of the child. Children\'s self-evaluation ability is poor, they tend to evaluation as a mirror for adults, children gradually see their image from the mirror. Size adult characteristics should be based on the child\'s age, ability, carefully and correctly evaluating children requires not too high, too low.

5, do not harm the child\'s self-esteem. Children are going to make mistakes or do bad things, and adults to respect children, the children, not to children in front of criticism. \"One son\" of traditional practices is not a modern educational methods, also do not take the advantages and disadvantages of their children than other children, inappropriate criticism could easily hurt your child\'s self-esteem, lack of self-esteem of children is extremely difficult to establish a positive self-image.

Let the children experience the joy of success

MOM and Dad in the education of children in the process, pay attention to the children\'s initiative into full play, one of his own independent, fully enjoy the joy of success, thereby enhancing the enthusiasm of the children, set up self-confidence, towards new successes. So, how to let the children experience the joy of doing a?

1, to create a relaxed atmosphere at home, giving children more freedom, he wanted to do, as long as there was no danger, let him do it. Provide adequate actions to give children opportunities.

2, pay attention to cultivate children\'s independence. Usually respect the child\'s self-esteem, to maintain their sense of independence. If MOM and dad to handle all big and small, will only make things lack or reduced interest, thus giving up ahead, joy of experience to his own independent do one thing.

3, when children do something wrong, do not randomly criticism, accusing them of doing too much wrong, but mainly to encourage, enthusiasm for child protection.

4, \' requirements and expectations should not be too high. When it finds a child in some ways than others, or does not meet the expected demand, will be considered according to the child\'s circumstances and characteristics of modified, some suitable for their children, through the efforts to achieve the goals. One step at a time, don\'t worry. You know, children have a long process of painstaking and meticulous, only through the introduction of proper and practical education, respect for children, help children, encourages children, and to give guidance in a timely manner, let the children themselves to explore, to finish, to experience the joy of success, to guide them well and happy to get through life\'s stages of enlightenment.

Child refused to stay in closed rooms do

Even if the door is open, many children will consciously stayed in the room. They did not \"escape\" attempt. However, some children are not \"arrested\". They kept running out of the room, resulting in closed rooms null and void. If flight is smaller, you just stood in the doorway, blocking their way shot. They jianshibumiao, will be relying on to return to the room. For older children, you can take the doors close. So several promptingsfrom, look out, once in closed rooms and never run out without authorization, can only honestly \"sentence\"--this is a \"closed\" in the past. If you do not close the door, child repeatedly escapes, you got them to go back, the two sides would be in \"see\".

In this case, not closed, of course, to what effect. You train and constraints child\'s effectiveness, will be greatly diminished. There is a way, is outside the door fitted with \"closed\". So, even if the children can open the door, \"closed\" will cover the child\'s way (\"closed\" are usually on the door frame. You should do some strong. If child a foot can kick it, and you might as well not loading at all). There is a way. Children dared to run out of the confinement, you increase the number of closed. Or, you can take the confinement time increased by 1 time times again.

Of course, if the object is 2~3sui of closed child, both of these methods may not be much, because they are difficult to understand your intentions. For older children, this method is effective, because they do not want to just ask for it. Some parents ingenuity, room door into the closed \"half\". (They can from this \"half\" above the monitor the situation. ) This \"half\" features, is the bottom half of the door is locked, and can be opened in the upper part. You may be seen in the comedy film \"half\". Some children like this \"comedy of\" means of punishment. They are happy to accept such a train, and can well reflect on their own. Children may take advantage of you do not back up, and walked out. This is the case, you can also use a plastic spherical door knob. This handles reverse, considerable effort is required. Children\'s strength is not enough, there is no way the door open.

There is a way more simple: to lock up. Some parents worry about in this way, children may suffer from \"claustrophobic\". This concern is redundant, unless you put the kids to be closed for months and years. Some parents think the children locked in the room, is a serious criminal act. As far as I know, in the United States in most places, this approach does not conflict with the law. You can clearly tell the child: as long as obediently accepted the closed, doors can be opened or closed. Once they run out from the inside, you will lock the door. So children will realize that as long as their obedient, you can ensure the confinement room door open. It was their welcome.

From the child\'s nature, they always try to escape confinement (including many people with \"ADHD\" children). Therefore to close the door in a certain way, of course, is a necessary practice. If the doors can be opened at any time, children can go out at any time, and you had to follow their buttocks behind Eagle catching chickens like to catch up with the past, forcing children to return the room--so, implementing magic significance, is gone. You will be very passive, for kids, nor is there any benefit. As a parent, you have to let the child know, closed doors, is an insurmountable barrier. Unless the closed end of the time, otherwise they can only stay in it, reflect on their own. Closed period, if you\'re worried about your child\'s safety, it stood at the door and secretly monitor and wait. Trying not to let children know that. Some parents for confinement time, performing a \"child for a few years, it closed a few minutes\" principle. This is a good idea.

Parents should not be a bad mood, is free to extend the confinement time. Only children do too out, can only be appropriate to extend the confinement time. When children understand the rules you know \"just ran out of the room\", you will give up the fight, start short and quiet of \"reflection\".

Iodine-deficient children of pregnant women suffer from ADHD

According to Reuters, Italy Messina University scientists recommended early pregnancy maternal thyroid function survey of iodine deficiency in the body. According to data the University scientists, iodine deficiency in the body of pregnant women would encourage children suffer from vitamin deficiency hyperactivity disorder.

Scientists in the research process in 10 year observed 16 was born in Sicily in children, in Sicily from lack of iodine on thyroid function recession is common. Found 11 of them children suffer from vitamin deficiency hyperactivity disorder, under lower their IQ, the children were being investigated in a melancholy mood, the mother of 7 children in Group early in the pregnancy diagnosed thyroid function decline.

Dr fulangqiesike·weier Migros in charge of the study noted that, even pregnant women eat enough iodine, iodine deficiency also occurs early in pregnancy. Dr weiermigeluo is based on this view, you must check whether the pregnant women in early pregnancy suffer from thyroid function decline.

Worth mentioning is, suffering from a vitamin deficiency diagnosis of ADHD children are not always quickly, suffering from vitamin deficiency hyperactivity disorder to conduct a comprehensive diagnosis in Italy take 3 years, in the United States takes 1 year time.