While the children were frustrated was irritable

Each child will often suffer setbacks in their daily lives. Take their environment. In their eyes, is a very confusing parts of the world. No matter how hard they try, but on the level of their development, they cannot figure out why most things will happen, what next and how to solve the problem. At the same time, they still is germinating the idea of independence, so as to encourage their adventures from the parents to give their security and their control. When young\'s experiment to try their abilities when the parents are alarmed about their this spirit of exploration. However, children do not really know their limit, so he tried to get things tend to be his libunengji. He wants to do certain things, but lack of movement necessary to the success of control and rational understanding. In addition. When he needs cannot be met when he can\'t stand. When when he wants something, he\'d like to have, because in his way of thinking, and vote \"after\" of the concept.
So, 2 is why the children were frequently lost his temper, his fate is always lightning to overthrow their desire for things not to, their aspirations and ambitions, always work in practice. Therefore, he felt overwhelmed. In short, his life is a frequent setbacks experienced. Of course, is excited when his success.
In addition to frustration, child care or lack of language skills to achieve their own ends and calm his disappointment. In our life, language plays a very important role in coping with setbacks. Therefore it is not difficult to understand, why was the child lost his temper and his expression of limited ability. Young children can understand than his actual use of words. He might have solve the dilemma of opinion, but was not in communication with others when expressed in language very well. Therefore, his emotions will be more and more excited, his frustration is growing.
Finally, children still lack the ability to control emotions. We grow up mature later learned how to suppress their emotions and avoid emotional, but children do not have these skills. When he humbled a strong feeling to the height, when you need to vent, he will certainly be looking for a chance to vent. But his method of venting is very limited. He cannot find anyone complaining, nor holding back in their hearts do not say, do? it will have to temper. He will suddenly lying on the ground, sharp howl, punched and kicked, hit his head. At this time, he was like a volcano, to want to calm down, have to be a first blast off is not available at the top of their own.
Therefore, we can think, anger is a natural phenomenon in the development of children. Some children to send a small temper occasionally, but others are often hit. There is no doubt that a child\'s character also plays an important role. The emotion is very strong children to temper is fierce. Difficult to adapt to the different experiences of the child\'s ability to endure setbacks may also be low.　　 Attention is not easy to concentrate on children often can turn our attention to other matters and avoid provocation. General causes of the above are caused by the child lost his temper. Of course, if a child for some reason are suppressed, then he is likely to be frequently lost his temper. In these cases, in addition to lose his temper, often there are other clues (sleep problems, not happy) will tell you where the problem. Finally, there are diseases of children will often throw a tantrum. If a child lost his temper when too much (for example, more than three times a day), or a temper for too long (more than 15 minutes), or temper of age is over, children have been able to seamlessly use of language to express their ideas (the age of four) when he was still often angry, you should consider these possibilities.
　　

Emotional and behavioral development cycle

Children from dependent to independent and is not easy, after many times of adaptation and not adapted to the contradiction, dependent and independent repeated gradually mature. Jon Gossels acts on children\'s behavior on the basis of long-term research of the Institute, on this process are described. They found that children \"good\" behavior and \"bad\" behavior generally are older growth, with a fairly regular program of alternate and loops which already exists in the l years.

Researchers believe that, at the stage of good psychological balance, children themselves and not feel what is wrong with the world around, followed by a short period, significant imbalances as well as the heart, after temporary imbalances, will become frustrated. Researchers believe the children were born after the first 4 weeks of emotional development is rapid, although the stage is not social smile, however, for comfort and satisfaction can make a positive reflection of suffering and denied, to cry or not satisfied with the song said.

12 weeks of the baby experiences a brief imbalance, his stomach face down on the floor or in bed, he just kicked out to struggling, feeding and sleeping difficult. Cry more, especially at night.

At 16 weeks, sleeping babies fed turned to successfully, to maintain a swimming posture on the floor, not struggling in vain, seeing their loved ones will be issued when laughter and softly for social communication, it is-a balance stage.

20 weeks babies can have serious imbalances. At this time he experienced a number of failures and setbacks, such as prone position wants to indent the body the following leg, he himself sat up and he wanted to reach out and grab something, but he failed, and mother and left him to, he would cry.

24 to 28 weeks babies entered the stage of a balance when babies learned to sit, watch, pay attention, toy changed hands on the ball, meet the psychological needs of his, he can take advantage of the ability to self pleasure, a person play for several minutes. He is friendly to strangers, then behavior is \"self-contained\" and \"friendly\".

At 32 weeks, because the difference between strangers and acquaintances of observation and ability development, significantly increased crying, and a temporary imbalance occurs.

36-40 week, most babies again enter a good balance when babies learned a lot on the ball, imitating \"Welcome\", \"Goodbye\". To understand \"not\", \"no\", because particularly willing to try these capabilities, so reactions more experienced in the exchanges.

At the time of about 44 weeks imbalance in the baby and after a short period, his strangers are often very \"strange\".

At the age of 1, entered a period of new balance, Director of baby become calm, confident and friendly, like to be noticed, he knew the people of praise, like \"get\" and \"to\" of the game, like a hidden-is now also \"elude\" game, in particularly likes it when he climbed to amuse him.

In 15 months Shi, and will lost balance, he may became is does not obedient, this is because he in suddenly between get has many new of ability, he adhere to own to to do many things, but and expression does not clearly, was does not to adult of understanding and support and often temper, however temper came fast, to was also fast, as long as adult is good at boot, comparison easy calm and transfer.

Most of the 18-month child insists on to hate side of development, he likes and adults required to do. As adults to help him in the second when the socks, he first socks may be down. Adult he followed grown-up, he walked in the opposite direction, but adults say \"Goodbye\", before their own interests, and he will follow soon. With the development of communication skills with language and adult children jump on the phenomenon itself.

About 2 years old and entering a balance period. When it comes to 2 and a half, the child may become particularly stubborn and conservative, refused to wear clothes, refused to use the new furniture, also refused to try new foods, he may be on the outside is a lively, enthusiastic and energetic person, but at home is not easy to get along; to 3 years will become frustrated and good cooperation.

Situations described in the above study, can be seen everywhere in life, but each child unbalanced and balanced circulation of alternate months of age and duration are not consistent. Strength of different children\'s reactions are not the same. Some children at the age of 1 or less there is no clear stage performance, such as the author of a neighbor\'s child, in 16 months, suddenly refused to Pocket \"urine does not wet\" bed, refused to wear new clothes, insisted on wearing old clothes, to adult recommendations lost his temper, but he previously, and there is no obvious imbalance. We often encounter, suddenly appears some children and adults to do, said the irony of temper, refused to meet, not willing to wait. But most of the children, and over time will shunliu up. As has a 2 aged 8 months of boy, Qian a stage temper is large, combustion Shi head to ground hit, adults with hand pad in he of head Shang, he to adults of hand pushed, does not agreed he took a pieces articles, he quickly to grabbed another a articles gave to threw in ground, adults called he bath, he is refused to wash, mother education he not with old cripple go, he answer said: \"I is to with old cripple go. \"He played cars can play more than an hour, his father cut in, will play the father, but his children in the nursery is a delightful favorite, perhaps because of people like that have to be bound by their own behavior, so that. He will have some pressure, to return home to vent. And now everything is getting better, head does not hit the floor. Behavior is also easier to meet, father most excited is that in the last day of the evening (2 years 8 months), the father came home from work, little son immediately ran to his grandmother said: \"Grandma, Dad\'s back, give dad to eat. \"When the mother came home, he moved to the bench to get mothers to sit down. Parents son seems to have suddenly grow up mature, this is what a welcome change, of course, many of his behavior there will be repeated.

From the description above can be found in, pressing and often converse

Behave as a balancing stage end and the beginning of a new phase of unbalanced. In good psychological balance stage, children were of behavior and environment to keep a adaptation better of harmonious State, mood happy comfortable, then appears of does not balance, makes individual behavior and environment of harmonious produced r new of does not adaptation, emotional easy excited, its real is children in growth process in the of psychological need and ability skills Zhijian produced contradictions by caused of setbacks and troubles, is never mature to mature of process in the by inevitable will produced of. Of course, some external manifestation of radical, some children may have and sulked. This temperament characteristic of children-related.

Children after the age of 3, various cycles of conflict and resolution of conflicts will continue, at every stage of conflict resolution is good, growth will be relatively smooth.

Help children develop positive self image

A good self-image of children often feel that they are welcome, and confident, can actively overcome difficulties and bold work. Poor self-image of children often feel is not satisfactory, inferiority, and timid and afraid of doing something wrong. Self image, once formed, it is difficult to change. From small help children develop positive self image, the children will be lifelong. How to help?

1, creating opportunities for self-expression, independent children to do, such as washing the handkerchief, button button, finishing things such as toys, hand; House of friends visit, children may be encouraged for the guests to draw a picture or sing a song. Children succeeded in doing one thing at a time, performing a show, painted a picture and so on, will experience that successfully bring joy and confidence.

2, a very positive child. Adults identifying child\'s strengths, strengths, give timely recognition can also properly in front of public recognition. Such children will feel they have many advantages, is that we all like children.

3, capture child a good start, and told him. Child independently learn to lace up for the first time, after falling for the first time herself did not cry, first active toys to the neighbors children playing, particularly carefully observed in adults, and praised in a timely manner. For those who feel poor self image of children, adults have to concern them bit by bit of progress, and encouraged in a timely manner, this will make your child feel self-image is a little better.

Level 4, understanding child mental and physical development, correct evaluation of the child. Children\'s self-evaluation ability is poor, they tend to evaluation as a mirror for adults, children gradually see their image from the mirror. Size adult characteristics should be based on the child\'s age, ability, carefully and correctly evaluating children requires not too high, too low.

5, do not harm the child\'s self-esteem. Children are going to make mistakes or do bad things, and adults to respect children, the children, not to children in front of criticism. \"One son\" of traditional practices is not a modern educational methods, also do not take the advantages and disadvantages of their children than other children, inappropriate criticism could easily hurt your child\'s self-esteem, lack of self-esteem of children is extremely difficult to establish a positive self-image.

Let the children experience the joy of success

MOM and Dad in the education of children in the process, pay attention to the children\'s initiative into full play, one of his own independent, fully enjoy the joy of success, thereby enhancing the enthusiasm of the children, set up self-confidence, towards new successes. So, how to let the children experience the joy of doing a?

1, to create a relaxed atmosphere at home, giving children more freedom, he wanted to do, as long as there was no danger, let him do it. Provide adequate actions to give children opportunities.

2, pay attention to cultivate children\'s independence. Usually respect the child\'s self-esteem, to maintain their sense of independence. If MOM and dad to handle all big and small, will only make things lack or reduced interest, thus giving up ahead, joy of experience to his own independent do one thing.

3, when children do something wrong, do not randomly criticism, accusing them of doing too much wrong, but mainly to encourage, enthusiasm for child protection.

4, \' requirements and expectations should not be too high. When it finds a child in some ways than others, or does not meet the expected demand, will be considered according to the child\'s circumstances and characteristics of modified, some suitable for their children, through the efforts to achieve the goals. One step at a time, don\'t worry. You know, children have a long process of painstaking and meticulous, only through the introduction of proper and practical education, respect for children, help children, encourages children, and to give guidance in a timely manner, let the children themselves to explore, to finish, to experience the joy of success, to guide them well and happy to get through life\'s stages of enlightenment.