How to deal with the relationship between grandparents and children?

Grandparents \' influence, often makes parents feel a headache. General care of grandparents to grandchildren are more enjoyment out of family relationships, as parents did not bear a very heavy responsibility, therefore the love expressed in their own way without taking into account, consequences on the education of children, tend to pamper and spoil. So we often hear parents complaining whenever grandparents, they will not discipline their children; as long as the child to grandparents who lives a few days, came back positive after \"crazy\" is not the way.

Grandparents only to her a granddaughter of kelaodiya, she is naturally more dearly. Grandparents often drive them, stay for a few days to a holiday to New York for her home. Kelaodiya come back at a time, will bring back many new toys and new clothes, mother and most unpleasant kelaodiya be a lot of money. Mother wanted to society of training kelaodiya plan shopping, reasonable limits to her from her monthly pocket money, taught her the money are the largest and most effective use, and know how to overcome the impulses of the moment, society savings, to purchase what they most want to be. However his mother never thought the plan was undermined by generosity of grandparents. Mother and daughter to the store if she wanted to buy this and that, MOM reminded her: \"you pocket money there this month, and now just months. \"Kelaodiya is not to say:\" Grandpa gave me some money, I buy something, and that isn\'t enough, you can tell them, brought me next time you see us. \"Mother was quiet, a great deal of effort, not showing their irritation. Daughter added: \"MOM, you give me pocket money number is too low, I go to my grandparents there, they bought me a lot of things that I like, much more than the total number you provided. \"Mother was really annoying, a home of her husband and said:\" you have to find, let me take your parents to help our children\'s education, at least I don\'t split. \"\" What\'s going on? \"Mother again at the store, father replied:\" not so serious. Their grandchild relationship was harmonious, both sides are satisfied with this relationship, although grandparents to kelaodiya spend some money, but all of this, after all, it is not their relationship, and this is not encouraging things her illegal drug use, we will not interfere. \"Mother of her husband\'s answer was disappointing, in such cases the do?

We would like to emphasize is that children have the right to develop relationships with people other than parents, and parents should not try to control the development of the relationship. We all know mentality is the most solid, who can\'t stop across the close relationship between the generation, double the grandparent\'s love for her grandson generation is, sometimes their grandchildren love for sons and daughters were all added to the who. Grandparents while kelaodiya a bit too generous, with a mother\'s perspective this is not conducive to the growth of kelaodiya, of their children in some substances, not knowing how to control money. But this is only acceptable to the kelaodiya part of the social impact, we can\'t cut off her with all the contact, to ensure the purity of her education. Kelaodiya relationship between grandparent and is more of a bond of love, is a complement to parental love. Only in a world full of love, children can be truly happy growing up. There is also a way exactly what kind of education the right questions. Mother think should moderation children money, makes she knows limits, society plan, more main of is not think own wants to of on to are, does not was outside of limit, and progenitor parents may will wanted to she of requirements does not too, appropriate to meet about children of material requirements let children accident to surprise about, let she more are some may not be on will corrosion she, and effect she of character, and can let she is happy, spent these money is worth of. Which a strict mother and grandparents of loose on it? Can be said to be difficult to determine, perhaps they can be complementary. MOM not to g Lao Bangya concept of an absolute number, just to give her a feeling, a schedule of experience. And assistance to grandparents, mother, of course, to find that the factors taken into account in his plans, of the children we taught a reality that we are not raising children in a vacuum.